OK Milt, I’ll start writing again

I'm so sorry.

My condolences, Derek. Best wishes to you and yours from over here in Canada.

So sorry dear Derek ... Bless <3

So sorry you lost your friend in such a brutal and sudden manor Derek.
Yet you are turning this shock and loss into a positive, writing again.
I look forward to reading the fruits of your wisdom.
Tárlach.

Losing someone you care about is the hardest thing to deal with and in his own way he is yet still helping you. Sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss Derek....

What a wonderful tribute to Milt, to refocus on what's important. Thank you for reminding us all...

N

Lots of positive thoughts and energies to you, Milton and loved ones..HUGS

So sorry to hear of this tragedy Derek. Peace be with you. My dear friend Lauren lost her 20 year old daughter to sarcoma a couple of months ago. There is so much pain to bear in the world. I guess we just have to go through it and in time the pain lessens. Hug.

What a sad and shocking way to be reminded, Derek. My condolences on the loss of your friend and to his family. On the other hand, you have already begun to run with the torch he lit for you...and many of us have now been reminded. I'll be sharing this blog, as well as looking forward to reading what you write. Thank you!

My condolences on your loss, Derek.

Sorry about your friend. I've given up the IT contracts and stress since May and just set up a YouTube channel and Facebook page to share my successes and progress on a starch-based low fat vegan diet. Learning and sharing is what always keeps me excited, making videos, setting up a new Wordpress site, creating a video intro, answering questions, etc. The nagging voice that I should be earning money is always there but I try to ignore it.

so sorry for your loss. :'(

Derek, sorry for your loss. Warmest condolences to you.

It's such a huge, glaring, simple undeniable truth you bring to the attention. I certainly need to be reminded. Thanks.
jo

We pull every moment from the fruitful nothing, and soon enough we join the mulch of it. Giving witness to each other between times is the best part of everything. Strength for your journey, Derek.

There is something about death that jolts us into a sense of urgency. I enjoy your writing...perhaps you shall also put them to music.

Thank you for this, Derek. We all need to be reminded that life is fleeting and to work our life's purpose. You state so many truths here. Many sorrows for the unfortunate passing of your friend. Your grief will pass but the lesson lives on - get to it, this ain't no dress rehearsal. Love, Peace and Blessings to you and all your readers - and thank you for being the special motivational spirit you are.

I am so sorry to hear about your friends untimely death today.
I am happy to hear that you are writing again. I will be sure to read your postings in the future.

So sorry for your loss Derek.

Our time is so precious. Your writing is such an inspiration Derek, truly helpful and motivating to me personally, thank you for keeping that a priority.

Sorry for your loss.

Very sorry for your loss, Derek.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Good friends are a real, lasting treasure.

So so sorry Derek. My heart goes out to you.

I miss your writing too Derek. Sorry to hear about Milton. You gave him a nice bit of music to listen to and bring with him on the cosmic ride of his life : )

So sorry for your loss, Derek. At least Milt went doing something he enjoyed - cycling. So sad and sudden though. Good for you for finding something positive in this though! Your writing has been an inspiration to so many, including me, so I'm really happy that you're going to do more, in Milt's honor.
Hugs from afar,
Leslie (up in BC)

I am so sorry to hear about your loss! For what it's worth your book helped me launch what is becoming a very viable and thriving business. Your writing bolstered me whe I needed it most...your words inspired me to forge ahead. Yes, yes, yes keep writing.

Sorry to hear of the loss of Your Friend. Very Nice Heartfelt Tribute.

You have no idea how important your words were to me just now and not for what you may think.
Last Sunday I list my mind on someone. Not verbally... Not I the phone.... Not in person. With my fingers. The next day I woke up and realized what I had done. I may never be able to fully make up to this person what I did to her. A ful blown plain cyber attack... The most cowardly of all things in the current world.
My stomach has been turning all week. She's better than I am. Through the hurt she is trying to rebuild our friendship albeit carefully.
Words are everything. I have vowed to choose mine carefully

It can happen so suddenly and we tend to take our seconds here for granted. I'm so sorry for your loss, Derek. At the very least, your loss seems to have spoken to your passion and here you are, writing.

Hey Derek, sorry for the loss of your friend. It is a harsh reminder that our time is limited and can be up instantaneously. A good reminder to do the things you love that you feel are important. A good reminder for me too. All this busy stuff I do every day. Why? I've been reevaluating the new direction I need to take. Change is happening all the time and is not something to fear. I for one am going to embrace the change, dream of new possibilities and chart a new direction. Our country is in bad shape and there are people hurting and having a hard time surviving. I think the answer lies in building community, showing people how they can help and teaching people how to downsize and live sustainably off the land. It's human nature to want to help others less fortunate and I think we need that more than ever in this day and age. I digress and didn't mean to downplay your grief at the loss of your friend. Go with what you feel is right.

I was just on a gig with a another musician, who said: "You know, I miss those e-mails from Derek Sivers, I loved the way he wrote..."
So sorry for your loss, what a great tribute to your friend, and welcome back..you've been missed.

Hi Derek Please go on sharing your thoughts and feelings Always good to hear from you, from wherever you are, keep rolling the wheels of inspirational thoughts and keep connecting the dots into new creations

Derek, me gusto mucho lo que escribiste por que finalmente los amigos son la familia que uno escoge en esta vida, un gran abrazo.
Se te estima
DD

Derek,

I am sending grace, peace and blessings to you for your loss. Thank you for still finding a way to help, inspire and uplift others, even while you, yourself, are hurting. You are a gem.

Warm regards,
Felicia Joy

You do write beautifully.
Very down to earth and practical. But the soul of a poet and the mind of a visionary shine through.
I'm sorry you lost your friend.
Love,
Pilar

I am so very sorry for your loss, Derek. May you cherish all your memories of your dear friend Milt. Peace be with you and may you be blessed in all that you do.

OMG. I am so sorry to hear your news. I am hoping all the good memories you have of your friend get you through this sad time.
Grief shared is half grief; Joy shared is double joy.

Sorry to hear that Derek.

It's been a weird few weeks since Thanksgiving (in the U.S.). My last grandparent passed away. A twitter follower that I hadn't met but wanted to take me surfing (he was a professional surfer) died two days later - a few hours after we chatted online. Nelson Mandela also passed as well and likely to be the only politician to truly be missed. I know of a few other deaths that all occurred in the last week.

So bizarre.

I would be thrilled if you kept writing and your sentiment is very timely. Time really is our only limiting resource and we need to be reminded of that often and work at focusing on what matters most to us.
I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter just got done biking home to Atlanta from Pennsylvania and I worried every day for two weeks about her safety. But, as she has so often remimnded me, life is fleeting and we must make the most of every second.

Dear Derek . . . It is always good to hear from you, and I appreciate all the ways you have tried to help me. I wish you the very best thru the holidays, and new year.
Kindest regards Bob Edgar

Sorry to hear about that accident, and by a police car no less. Yes Derek turn those tears into thoughts and write write write!

Hi Derek, so sorry hearing about the loss of a good friend.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts in these tough moments.

Best wishes

Max

I'm so sorry to heart you lost your friend, Derek. Sending blessings. Thanks for reminding us to focus on what is really important.

It's sad that we seem to feel so little moral resistance to going along with the 'flow' of what we're told is the way to be(have) today... instead of really using wisdom from History and the way our forefathers/mothers 'grew' within their lifetimes. With the increasing vapidity of today's promoted pastimes (shopping, social-networking, one-upmanship, watching-instead-of-doing), I find myself thinking more and more reflectively about times gone by and the gems of creativity, sharing, artisanship and 'value' left by those gone before. Architecture, movies, music, books, gardens, grandchildren etc etc. You re-booted, Milt rode... blessings and sincere condolences to you... at the very least (and you do much more than 'least'), you're positing the question Derek!

www.jonengland.com

Hello
Good moring from cambodia..

A shocking and sad reminder to please keep writing. You inspire people like me and I am sure Milt Olin thought so too. I am so sorry that this accident happened but also touched and thankful that you still know how to cry. Time is indeed limited. Make good use of yours some more. I think writing and reaching out is your real legacy and I bet Milt did to.

Sorry for your loss! I do understand what you are saying here. I have been putting off more projects then I can count. Playing the guitar better, getting my next CD ready for sale, etc.. Your friend was able to leave this world doing what he loved. As sad as his death is he was able to teach the lesson of going all out in life. Thanks for sharing this story Derek.

That's a thoughtful and touching response to a tragic loss, Derek. May Milt's wisdom and wit live on through your words.

Amen. Preach it.

Makes me think of Mary and Martha in the Gospel of Luke. Martha was concerned about preparing the home for Jesus' visit. Mary sought to prepare her heart and sit at her Savoir's feet - soaking in every word He spoke to those gathered. Such an opportunity never came again for either of them.

Jesus said, when questioned by Martha - upset that she had no assistance with her preparations; "Mary has chosen what it better, and it will not be taken from her."

Ref Luke 10:38-42

Life is short so never pass up an opportunity to help someone and try to be nice to people.

I'm sorry for your loss

Yes. Please. Get back on the horse.

So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you and Milton's family.

Sorry for your loss Derek. Glad to hear it's inspiring you to write again though. Seems like the kind of thing Milt would be glad to know.

Derek,

My condolences, sincerely. I lost my best friend to leukemia, so I can relate.

Life is indeed precious, so don't waste another minute, I'm sure Milt would want that anyhow.

Take care of yourself Derek.

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. This hits close to home. My husband has Multiple Myeloma, which is a non-curable cancer of the blood and bone marrow, now and doesn't ride any more, but for the decades he did, he said that vehicles were always dive bombing him. The big 18-wheelers were the worst offenders.

I'm not sure which is worse . . . waiting at home each day when he went out to ride, or waiting for the cancer to take its toll.

So very sorry Derek. And a sheriff's car?! Come ON. Just awful.

I agree for sure man. I always stop and read your articles in the middle of whatever I am doing because I have enjoyed what I have read from you this far. So I stopped in the middle of watching something on Hulu to read your article and found myself really thinking about how I spend my time. I am happy to hear that you are going to start writing again. Thanks for the article.

I got shivers reading this. I offer this article as another joyous life ended far too short, but one which has been inspiring me to stop wasting time. If you've seen other posts about Zina Lahr, perhaps others haven't. Thank you for years of inspiration, and blessings for your friend Milton. http://makezine.com/2013/12/06/makers-portfolio-video-becomes-touching-remembrance/

Always tough to lose a loved one (whether that be a spouse, best friend, family member, etc.) - my condolences to you Derek.

Hi Derek. Sorry for your loss. I just wanted to let you know that the Bible gives us a sure hope of a resurrection. God promises to bring back to life those that have died and they will live forever on earth, Death will be no more.
Revelation 21; 3,4 look it up please. please go to JW.ORG for more info. U will not be disappointed.

Oh oui! so true Derek. and your timing...! all things happen for a reason, the pain the sorrow and the joys we go through trigger a series of reactions in us, a kind of awakening and growth.
You letter arrived as I was getting discouraged by the sheer size of the task I have taken on with the Antara Project...for a couple of days I have been thinking as you did, what is important? and I am drowning here...Can I do this? So I open my mail box and there you are, speaking somehow what is in my mind...What is important? Yes dear friend, you see your writing is important...You triggered off for me the realisation, that how ever difficult the task is, we do know deep inside that it is worth it...it matters...for all of us it is slightly different, our focus vary, but we do know what we need to do...:) It's called passion!
Write, please write... and I shall continue to build this project as I aim to do...We all matter and what we do matters as well.
And your wonderful friend Milton made a difference, I thank him too. :)
Much love
Annemarie (london UK)

Wow, heart-wrenching. Makes you realize how very important Every day is.
Thoughts are with you ~

I posted this link to my facebook page, in part because it's the most insightful thing you've ever written, and you've written A LOT of very insightful things. I add my voice here to the chorus of sympathy for your loss—but moreover—I'll do what you ask.

You're right it is hard to stay on track, it is so tempting to just fritter your time away whilst accomplishing nothing important.
It seems your friend died doing something he loved and listening to some good tunes…that doesn't make the loss any easier, but it may offer some level of comfort.
Thank you for writing, it has been awhile since I have received an email about a new post. I always enjoy reading your insights.
Take care
Isak

Thanks Derek. It is always on my mind - but sometimes the song doesn't come through. As a songwriter I need to find the self-discipline to work in the dark alone, and your encouragement helps to keep the candle lit!

like everyone has written Derek, so sorry for the loss of your very dear friend. Through this he has awakened in you the joy to express yourself by the written word. Each word then is like a flower sent to him above..big hug to Derek.

Derek, My condolences, and thank you so much for sharing this.

My condolences my friend is so sad to lose someone so close, so I will learn from this and value my time and my friends more. thank you Derek

My condolences

Having been a bicyclist myself and also living in the Calabasas area I was shocked to learn of Milton's accident. He was hit by a Los Angeles County Sheriff deputy. This kind of accident is something you can't put into any kind of perspective. It's got to be filed under "Shit Happens." RIP Milton Olin.
I am glad I spent 3 years to re-learn to play my horn. I am once again recording and performing and I am happier than I have been in many years. I am staying away from by bicycle just because....

Derek, sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. My deepest condolences. I'm looking forward to reading your work once again. Take care.

Sorry to hear about your friend. Do keep writing--we all love to hear from you :)

So sorry for your loss, Derek.....my thoughts are with you and his family. What a wonderful way you have chosen to honour him - I look forward to reading your posts again. All the best to you and your family through the Christmas season and for the New Year 2014.

Derek-
Sorry about your loss. Creation of art & music is the highest compliment we give to the one who made us. Reflecting what is good and beautiful in this life through our art is the most noble endeavor we can assume. By his presence, your friend obviously left the world a better place. We can celebrate and honor that with music.

My heart truly goes out to you Derek. There is nothing like the loss of a loved one to remind us of what is truly important. Sudden loss forces us to remember that we must appreciate what we have before it's gone, and jolts us into the realization of just how short our time here really is. Go and write like there's no tomorrow…what a gift that doing so will probably help you as much as it helps so many others.

Such a moving response. My thoughts are with you.

Hi Derek,
Isn't it sad that it takes the loss if a loved one or friend to show us life, I had this happen to me early to such a wonderful person who taught me about life and living so to the Milton's and Bruce's if the world we will keep the light on and burning on the important part of live!
Life life like its on borrowed time!!
JB

By far the best advice you or anyone could give. We are but a vapor or mist in time. Sage and profound words. Thank you for the gentle reminder and my condolences for your loss. Every beating heart only beats for so long but every written word viberberates in eternity.

That's inspiring, actually, and - yes- I would like you to write again. I would like to write again, too.

Hi Derek, I'm so sorry for your loss. I welcome back your posts. They are always of great value to me and I know to many others. This past weekend, I tried to complain to my wife and daughter that I was 'stuck' doing laundry that they could have done some other time so that I could have more free time on my 'day off', yet the truth turned out to be that I really liked and valued my time doing the laundry because of how I got a lot of processing things in my mind done while moving my body and getting fresh air back and forth between home and the laundromat, and actually some much needed space / time to myself.

Sorry for your loss Derek, it will be a tough time ahead I'm sure,but to re-focus on what is really important to you is the only positive that can be taken from such a tragic event, may he rest in peace.

Sorry to hear about your friend. Sounds like a wake up call for us all.
Take care, Jeff

...and I admire your dedication to your writing, even with the devastating loss of your friend so present. My condolences.

Very sorry about the loss of your friend Derek. Your insights are amazing and have helped a lot of people look at the world with a different perspective and greater wisdom. I also needed this wakeup call from someone whose viewpoint I value much to realize my own focus on putting out content that maybe someone can find useful... even when I am gone as well. Thank you.

Wow- so sorry for your loss, but this left me totally inspired. Thanks for sharing

Sympathies.

I'm sorry Derek. It sucks. +1 for writing again

I am terribly sorry for your loss, Derek.

You are a very good man, Derek! You do inspire lots of people (especially me) and death is the ultimate lesson to the living ... the ultimate motivator for prioritising. 2 roads diverge in a woods ....

Hi Derek

really sorry for Milton , R.I.P.

I know how you feel, unfortunately too many friends departed too soon recently.

Please write more often, as your advices are precious.

with my best regards

Fabio

Sorry to hear this news, Derek. I will pray for you and Milton's family.

I'm so sorry, Derek! If your friend was anything like you, I'm sure he was a great guy.

Writing is a gift from God. Writing, drawing, music...creating is the most worthy thing we can do with our time!

This was really moving. :'( And thanks for sharing this good work-inspiration with us.

Dude,
So sorry to hear.
Do you read hard copy books?
If so, I have something to send you (kindle doesn't do gifting yet, that I'm aware of).
Rich

I'm so sorry, Derek. I'm exited to see what you write in the future because you are 3/3 for writing great things that I utilize!

Wow am I in agreement with that. Since I retired from science projects 15 years ago I went back to my first love of composing and arranging music. Since then I've put out 38 CDs, that's about 500 songs composed and arranged. The songs come from sailing the oceans and listening to the "Rhythms of the Universe". Island Frank

I'm so sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry to hear that, D. Milt must have been a great guy.

As a matter of fact this morning I was thinking about the old "Go Where the Filters Are" article. I think I first learned from you of the concept of and the importance of success stories. Also just being able to exchange ideas on the Musicthoughts/Musicmakers listserve. Made such a difference.

Sorry for your loss Derek. Thinking of you during this difficult time.

So true, I spent most of the day tweaking a website I'm making. It's more important to do the work. The writing on that site is what will change lives, not what it looks like. Thank you for the reminder Derek. I'm sorry for your loss. Please do write more.

Can only imagine how devastated you must feel - I hope that knowing there are so many people around the world thinking of you helps in some small way. Writing may be the most powerful medicine of all for you right now.
If there's anything I can do for you Derek, you only need ask.

So sorry to hear about your loss Derek,

Ten years ago I couldn't have imagined all the "online tasks" that have become ingrained in my 'to do' list. As my girlfriend begs me to quit working so much, and my guitar and notebook stares at me longingly from the corner....I have had this thought all too often. Balance is tough to come by for me. It's easier to update the facebook status one more time than it is to really do the heavy lifting on the important things. I have to keep reminding myself too.

Here's to wishing balance for us all

Stephen

My deepest sympathies Derek.

you soften my heart in pain for you and your friend and all who must have been touched by him

Welcome back, Derek. I'm sorry it took a tragedy for you to see the value of your writing. Personally your dual-boot situation does absolutely nothing to inspire my life. But your writing? Every time you hit publish it's like a kick in my ass. And now every time I read your musings I'll think of Milton and remember to put your thoughts into positive action.

Sorry for your loss...

Please write more!!!!

So sorry for for your loss, Derek. Powerful post. Thoughts and prayers to your friend's family and his friends

Thanks, Derek. Look forward to more.

I have been having very similar thoughts recently as i see life after am gone. I ask myself what would i be remembered for? I had to really wakeup and start writing, singing songs, making documentaries or short films. Am glad you just spoke for me. R.I.P Milton Olin from London. Thanks Derek for speaking out

Condolences on the loss of your friend. And do please keep writing and inspiring.

Derek: Sorry for your loss. I have always enjoyed you insights on writing and music.
and I, also waste too much time on doing nothing. So I will try along with you to do more of things that matter. And also, please keep writing. Thanks JB

My heart goes out to you Derek...I loathe loosing friends...writing is so amazingly cathartic...even if I can't spell.

Love to you Derek. Thanks for giving to us even in your sorrow for the loss of your friend.

This is a good one, Derek. Amazing outlook, especially for you right now.

:)

Hugs.

Let your light shine, dear friend, and let Milt help keep it lit. Shine on!

Sorry for your loss, and grateful for your words. This is just the kick in the pants I require to get a project of mine into high gear. I'll be speaking to you about that one soon...

Life is to be lived, whatever that means to any one person--it's our choice, and it's a choice we make every moment of every day. SO many people feel trapped by their lifestyle and I've had many people tell me they cannot change it, when in actuality, they meant they will not even try to do so.

When we are confronted with the awareness of an "early death" it often has that hidden gift. My entire life changed when my mom passed at an early age and I realized "that was it." No trip to Europe, no more holidays with grandchildren, everything she planned to do "someday" was no longer possible. I started choosing for me, and not for what I thought I was supposed to do, or even what made sense (usually by other people's ideals.)

The end result for me is living a life that isn't "waiting for someday" for most of the things I want to accomplish or try. I wish that everyone could live that way, as it is far more fulfilling than just making lots of money doing something that isn't fun and being miserable doing so. What people don't often realize is that when you are happy in your life, it truly affects everyone you encounter. And vice-versa.

Thank you Derek.
You are such a positive and inspiring person... I love hearing your stories and following you on your cool life adventures! And I'm really glad that you're going to keep writing. ;-) <3

Be strong Derek!
… I know the feeling. When you're down, you're not up to things. And when you're feeling better after a while, you get this wonderful gift of seeing what's essential.

Shine on, Derek. So sorry to hear about your friend. I appreciate the glimpses into your thoughts life.

124 comments in 1 hour. You are a blessed with a deep well of people who care about you and open their hearts and minds to you, willing to learn from you and feel with you.

Death is such a great teacher! We turn our backs on this most fundamental question(resolving the issue of life and death) in pursuit of the bubbles, the foam and the hairspray.I'm not using this as a preaching platform, but wish to thank you Derek for striking a resonant and fundamental chord.I wish to quote verbatim Nichiren Daishonin 13th Century Buddhist."How long does a lifetime last? If one stops to consider, it is like a single night's lodging at a wayside inn. Should one forget that fact and seek some measure of worldly fame and profit? Though you may gain them, they will be mere prosperity in a dream, a delight scarcely to be prized.You would do better simply to leave such matters to the karma formed in your previous existences. ....( the writings of Nichiren Daishonin vol.1 pp 63)
We all know what matters most and this will always remain a matter of the heart.Thank you Derek for sharing this. I pray for Milton Olin.
We are borne from grief,
Always Dan

So sorry to hear. May his spirit always be close to you with love.

I'm sorry for your loss, and such a horrible way...

Derek, I am sorry about your loss. We will all be there, but this untimely death makes no sense. Keep on writing.

My heart goes out to you on the loss of your friend. Today I attended the funeral of a dear family friend. You are right, time is really a limited commodity, so if someone has something to say, he should say it. Good choice to keep writing, Derek. I appreciate what you write.

I am so sorry that your friend Milt died. As I have gotten older I have begun letting things go. There is less road ahead of me now, and more road behind me. I am happy that you received the gift of focusing on what serves others and yourself. You have connected with and served all of us who enjoy your writings and your sharing of yourself. AND you created a service for all us independent record folks. Thank you. --Anne

That was almost me a few weeks ago. Driving to work a car crossed over into my lane. I got over as far as I could and the car swerved at the last possible moment. I'm sorry for your loss and the lesson you shared is one for all of us. Redeem our time. Now I want to go spend some time with my sons.

Sorry about your friend. I'm a hard core cyclist and I had a friend die almost the same way about 6 months ago. You are so right about time management and what's important. I've seen a lot of people pass away from cancer recently and with just one life to live I agree we should all be doing what we can to better ourselves and those around us. That's something to live for.

At 71 years old, I am being reminded of that reality more and more frequently as nearly all of the people I was a child with are leaving this life. Sometimes as I begin a new project, especially one that is planned to go on for years, I wonder if I should begin it, lest it pass away with me. It doesn't take long to come back around to the reality of "Yes, absolutely! To NOT do so would be to abandon my life while I am still breathing. If I do pass away, and I am still not convinced that I have to, let it be in the middle of an exciting and useful project--something so useful that a new generation will pick up the ball and run with it--like our new community news and history website, NewPlymouthID.com which I just started to replace our local newspaper, which just closed. It has forced me back into my community renewing old friendships and creating new ones, paying attention to the issues that affect us locally, and looking for solutions rather than for the least insignificant TV show. If I suddenly get killed on a bicycle, at least there will be a place to publish my obituary.

I'm so sorry, Derek. Death of loved ones have been a kick in the pants a few times for me too. Expensive lessons, no, priceless ones. There is a verse in the Bible that helps me a lot that Jesus himself said, "I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat is planted in the soil and dies, it remains alone. But its death will produce many new kernels--a plentiful harvest of new lives." (John 12:24) Now is the time to let all that Milt sowed into you take root and produce much! A great harvest!!!

R.I.P Milt Olin. <3

So sorry for your loss, Derek. I do hope you start writing again. You have a talent not only for writing, but for sharing your views, experience, etc, in a way that is thought provoking and actionable. I would be one of the first folks in line (er, well, online) to buy a copy.

My condolences.
Inspiring words :D

So sorry for you losing a good friend. Life is short and all of us waste it sometimes. But we need to do those things sometimes. Why? Well I believe it is so we gain knowledge on how short Life really is and we as humans can forget so fast. Family, close Friends, a Mate, all give us comfort and strength in Life and I know that you know all of this. We just must remember them and help to keep what is good about them alive. As we hope we live our lives as well and someone does the same for us and maybe we even leave a mark that cares on to touch someone as your friend did you. Prayers and blessings to you my Friend. Maybe someday we will meet. in Cherokee, OstA NUwati, Wa-do' my friend and blessings and comfort out to you. TerryLee

I came to exactly the same conclusion. My Facebook face is now proof it it.

HELL yes.

Thank you for the years of immeasurable inspiration.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your friend.

Dear Derek, I look forward to hearing a song from you if you care to write and share one at this tender time. It's a doorway to a new time spiritually. I lost my Mom 17 years ago in a car accident and it caused me to write songs that I wanted to share with others. It changed my career from being a concert pianist, arranger and private singer to making me a professional singer. It freed my sad spirit, it brought my mom very close to me even after her physical body violently departed. In case you want to hear my song from that time, here it is-
Love, Hannah

The Bottom of the Sea
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Do cars driven by people really deserve a place in modern cities? We only put up with this outdated technology because it's all we've known. They're dangerous, dirty, noisy, grossly oversized. Lets bring on the new tech and transform our cities. Lets do it for Milf. Lets do it for everyone.

My deepest sympathies, Derek.

My heart goes out to you my friend!! I am so sorry for your loss, but if this inspires you to write more than there is a bright side! Your writing has indeed helped so many - including myself- much love xoxo
Tamara

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for all your do. You're an inspiration.

Hi Derek,
I'm sorry for your loss.
Glenn

Thanks for sharing something so personal-your thoughts are appreciated more than you know. Thank you!

Hello Derek,

Sorry for your loss and yes i want you to write more. I have been thinking about the way i have been spending my time at my current job and how once my wife starts back at work i would like to move onto something more in tune with the grander interests of humanity.

It's great to hear from you.

Thanks

The BEST friends are the ones who remind you live the best life you can. Thanks Milt! We all need these reminders.

Sorry you lost a friend. Hopefully he was the type of person who can never be replaced in your life. Hurts the most, but means the most.

A very well written article, Derek. I like in particular, "Time spent doing one thing is time not spent doing something else." As I approach 40, the realization that people I love will and do die has hit me. And it does cause me to question what I am doing with the time I have left.

Thank you for speaking to us to give us such powerful reminder Derek

Power on, Derek!

The older I get, and I'm only 30, the more I see exactly what you said here - and the more I get angry at myself when I am not focusing on important things, whether that is from past emotions blocking me from moving forward or procrastination from fear - but I am getting better.

I lost a close friend 3 years ago and it was difficult to swallow. I hope everyone who needs support is able to find it.

Sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to you and his loved ones.

Thank you.

My condolences for the death of your friend. When I lose someone close to me, I am often moved to write. Whatever the motivation may be, writing has great worth. Thanks for writing about Milton Olin and sharing.

I'm sorry for your loss. Never forget, but never dwell.

Thanks for sharing this, even if sad and I am very sorry for you - I think you did a great thing writing this piece were saddest events can still suggest a good vision of how to get the best possible out of ourselves, and for the others.

Derek,
When my Dad died a few years ago, the grief was palpable and much worse than I could have imagined.
Amidst the well-meaning platitudes of "closure" or "time heals all wounds", one thing resonated through all the noise; "you never get over it, but you learn to live with it" said a good friend.

He was so right....

Blessings to you

Derek, I really am very sorry to hear the sad news about your friend. Please accept my deepest sympathies. It is bewildering to know that he was riding in the cycle lane and even more bewildering to know that a police car hit him. Thats quite uncanny especially because law enforcement agencies at least in Europe and the USA would have, or should have been made aware, at the unusal number of cyclists who have died in tragic circumstances, most recently in London while riding in cycle lanes. An investigation was launched which included the Mayor of London. It must be very sad for you because I read that your friend was also an entertainment lawyer and he must have been a very valuable person to you as a talented professional. It seems though that a greater part of that value was embedded in your friendship with him; and you must surely miss him. I am so sorry but I hope that time will heal and that you will savour the happy times you spent with him.

Big luvs and hugs for your loss Derek <3

I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing and reminding us once again what's really important. Doing way more of what we love to do. Sending love to Milt's family and friends. That is really sad and I wish you the best. Peace & blessings Derek.

:-( May the ones who love you best gather round and let you grieve. Losing a friend sucks. I will keep you in thought and prayer.

Yeah, I burst into tears when I read the first three lines. I have that experience myself. What is important? Well, it's important to tell you that I always remember the phone call we had when I was going to put my record on CDbaby and how cool you were and how comfortable you made me feel. I remembered how I learned to send chocolate to give changes. And it went along with my inclination to bring people small presents even strangers the same thing. I loved your book. I loved it so much. I loved hearing your voice tell me the story and reminded me that it was okay to make mistakes, big honking mistakes.

So I'm here doing my best not to confuse realization with liberation. I'm writing a book, making a movie and watching my children as they are now adults be amazing. I cry at least once a day for the pain in the world and I cry at least once a day for the joy in it. Connection matters, love matters, doing more than I think is possible and forgiving myself when I come up short. Being for others as a way to free myself to be for others more.

Thank you my friend. thank you for helping me, sheparding me into the world of professional music. Keep givin it away. Travel safe. V

Once again, you have written something that is very relevant to something I'm going through now. I have the chance to have a really neat artist write lyrics to one of my tunes. It's a good chance, but I need to add a piano accompaniment to the melody I've written, because he needs the music as a MIDI file, and that means I need to add accompaniment to that melody. I know it will take me six hours to do it right. So I procrastinated yesterday and for extra measure, I not only neglected to do this project, I also failed to do the rehearsing and practicing I had already planned to do on some other projects. The day was wasted. I'm going to go start work on it within the hour, as soon as I can get home. Life is too short! We must not waste opportunities for moving forward with a career, or for cherishing a friend. (This is also an opportunity for me to be a friend to the lyric writer. He's going through a tough time and needs the creative outlet to get through it, and he needs it now.)
Very good advice from you once again, Derek! Keep writing!

Derek:

I am truly sorry that you lost a wonderful friend. I think your friend would be thankful that you are writing again. You have so many friends in this world who read your words and get such a blessing from them. You do not know most of us, but we are here and consider you a friend. You touch lives everyday and when you are gone those words of wisdom will continue to touch lives. I think your Milt would be really happy with your choice. I am praying for you and your family as you deal with this loss. I am also praying for those who were close to Milt. The things we do today can and will affect others tomorrow. I am so very sorry. I understand how it feels to loose someone so close, so quickly. Everything seems trivial when I look back to that time in my own life. Why didn't I just talk to her a little longer on the phone the day she died? Why didn't I encourage her to go to a Dr. that day she wasn't feeling well? I take her with me everyday as I am sure you will with Milt. Thank you for letting Milt encourage you to do what you do best, write. What a tribute to Milt. God hold you and carry you through this time, Derek.

I am sorry for your loss! Thank you for this post. I so missed your writings. Milt will be remembered every time we receive your future writings. Peace to you!

The hardest decisions are always almost right. The value is in able to put yourself in the uncomfortable position as much. Thanks for the story!

Spot on once again, Derek. That's why I chose to use my limited time to reply to you!

Keep 'em comin'!

The world's a better place when you're writing, dude. And I am so sorry for your loss.

This does come at a good time. A constant reminder of how every moment counts.Freedom to express all that you are.

I'm so saddened to hear of your friend. Thank you for the reminder that "Time spent doing one thing is time spent not doing something else." Your writing has had such an impact in my life, it really excites me to hear of you returning as I feel you impact more people than you realize. Thank you for all that you do Derek.

Derek, I am so sorry for your loss.

a very worthwhile piece of writing

Derek,

My deepest sympathies to you on the loss of your good friend, Milton. Remembering him with your written words is the best way to pay tribute to him.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your close friend, Derek. Thank you for writing even today. It does mean something.

A life of living will always end, but the same life will live again.

Garry

Is that a picture of me, or you? If it's me, that's pretty creepy! If it's you, we sure look alike. So sorry about your friend. I had a buddy killed the same way years back, but on a motorcycle in harms way of large semi-truck tires. Gone instantly. Wrote a song for him with a friend called "Pretty For Death." He looked better dead than he ever did alive.

So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Writing is one of the best ways to connect and connection makes us feel alive. Also incredibly cathartic in times of loss. Looking forward to more of your
words. Your name came to mind when I saw Eric Schwartz perform (he sells his cd's on cdbaby) this past weekend. And then I saw your email today.

Glad to hear you are finding meaning from such a great teacher. Death, loss, and grief sure do hurt, but that pain never comes as just an empty handed taker. Way to stay open to the gift it brings. He will always be a part of the work you do.
In your corner,
Ian

so sorry for this profound loss...
Yes. Write. Hugs from Canada. xox

So sorry for your loss. I too lost a friend too soon (aren't they all) when in the middle of discussing a project the emails threads went from crossing each other in the ether to just going silent. I took it to mean that he was busy on another project, which was most often the case. Two days later I heard from another friend that he had passed away in his sleep that night. No obvious COD, no history or other indicators that presaged his passing. He was just gone. Since then it has been a 'rebirth of wonder' - most likely a form of constructive procrastination, avoiding facing the loss of a friend, collaborator and inspiration. The grief still comes in phantom waves - triggers that I don't recognize until I'm on the back end of a heaving sigh. It will be like that for a while for you too. And if there's any solace it's that you've taken the right tack in making some use out of something so random, pointless and tragic. My condolences to you and all those affected.

Hi Derek,
It's been quite a long time I haven't received new writing from you. I'm so glad that you have new article today and start to write again, but feel sorry for your lost.

I Had to let you know that God has his sole now, he's resting in music heaven!
When I saw this story on the news last night I was saying to myself, Bless his sole, and then I see your email this morning and put 2 & 2 together,,,wow bro, so sorry.
God Bless Keep your head up.

RIP Milt.... Derek, may you find some peace as you struggle for understanding. At the same time, I'm looking forward to hearing your voice on a more consistent basis. Peace from Cape Cod. - Gary

I am sorry for your loss. My brother rides a road bike in San Diego daily and I worry about getting a phone call like you got about your friend. Thanks for your post and your reflections. I agree there are things we do that neither benefit others our ourselves. It is good to be mindful of such time wasters.

Derek-How sad about your friend---please stay with your grief it will show you the
way.
Be gentle to yourself
Ray

Crap, Derek, my heart goes out to you! I share your urgency to do the most important thing. Have you read the Three Questions by Tolstoy… it is quick, brilliant and timely. You have my love from Massachusetts, brother.
http://www.online-literature.com/tolstoy/2736/

Wise words, Derek, as usual.
You're a great guy.
Keep rocking.

The relation and the friendship remains, but the person passes away.
Joy that ends as pain begins... The sunshine turns to gray
Memories of events and feeling console a heavy heart
Life's a tapestry of joy and pain like a work of art.

I am one of the people you've helped with your post and most excellent reply to a question. (I'm still confabulating in Santa Barbara). Thank you for writing again and I am so sorry to hear about your loss of your friend. May the happy memories of your friend help you through this sad time. Thank you for the reminder that life is short and we should all make it count. With Sympathy. Sylvia

Derek, so true.
After 5 business founded and sold. Three kids, 6 surgeries, 40 rounds of radiation, 6 round high dose chemo, (now cancer free), I find it hard to decide where to focus. Another new business or enjoy my time here with my family? I have never had more energy and ideas then i do now, knowing our time is short. I think balance will win the day. I am so sorry for your loss. I once head a great quote "it is better to live one day as a lion then 1,000 years as a lamb". I am sure your friend was a Lion. Peace..

Derek, thanks for sharing your loss and for bringing positive from it. I'm glad you're writing again. Now, because you posted, I am realizing the creative musical things I need to be focusing on, instead of pushing them aside to take care of "music business" things that really CAN wait until later.

I send my sincerest condolences. Take care.

Write on Brother!

Derek, I really appreciate spending time with you through your words. Words in the end are our only lasting legacy, even if those words are just our name.

Life is unpredictable, yet what's certain is death. Totally agree with u to focus on what's important. Sorry to hear about your friend. Stay strong...

Sorry for your loss.

So sorry to hear the news Derek. Great words you wrote to inspire all who read that we should use our time wisely to accomplish what is important.

What a great tribute to your friend. And a great reminder to all of us.

So sorry, Derek. Grieve hard, grieve well. And your writing is always an inspiration to me.

Condolences to the friends and family.

So sorry for your loss, Derek. But very glad you will be writing again. The world needs you. The world needs THAT from you.

So sorry to hear that you have lost a dear friend. Do continue to write if you wanna though; I'm sure many of us here know you have been busy with work or family and not because of lack of effort on your part that you have not been writing regularly. My condolences.

Thank you, Milton Olin for the wonderful life you lived. The kind of life that inspired the people around you...someone like Derek Sivers. You must have been very special and will leave an ache in many hearts for some time to come. Just know that your influence will continue to be felt by people like me who never met you, because Derek is writing again. We will think of you as we read Derek's posts and give thanks for your living a beautiful and loving life.

I have a note on my iPhone I read every day with things to remember. I just added the below.

"- We all die. And it will happen sooner than later. Time really is limited. We can't pretend it's not. Time spent doing one thing is time spent not doing something else."

Thank you for reminding me Derek. Like you said it seems so obvious, but for some reason it's so easy to forget how limited our time is. And yet so powerful and beautiful when we do remember.

First off, I'm very sorry to hear about your friend Milton. I can't say that enough. As someone that likes to ride my bicycle on the weekends, it hit me as well. If any good can come from an unfortunate incident like this, you have shown it in your words here. What you have shared here is a good and timely reminder and I have shared this with three close friends already. Thank you Derek and Milton.

I'm so sorry. I know how difficult it must be, and how seemingly sudden it happens. And you are right, Derek.

'It's so easy to waste time doing that stuff that's of no importance, no challenge, no benefit to anyone, not even yourself. '

Indeed! The important things are the ones which we will always be able to reflect on as such on our own deathbeds, just as the work we leave behind will affect those who come after us.

Keep on keeping on my friend.

I'm sorry about your friend, but thanks for the kick in the butt about not letting minutiae take the place of my writing.

My condolences. I love writing songs too and don't seem to make enough time for it. The other issue is who will hear my songs when they're done. I find social media to be so dulling I forget about it all the time. I had my 15 min plus of fame when I sang Echo Beach. Now I am still making music and I'm sure I could find a larger audience but I think I'll just spend my time doing things I enjoy for a small audience. It's a choice I know everyone doesn't have. "Life's too short to long for something else"

Derek, I'm awfully sorry about your close friend being killed. Having people you are that tight with is so important, and i know it's a big loss to you, his other friends, and his family. He must have been a great guy, who gave alot to those in his orbit. You are right, that each moment is precious. It is important to put time to good use. For things and friends that are imporant to us. Even if that good use is just hanging and relaxing, it's better spent than alot of other ways that might be less significant.

I don't know Milt, but I'm crying. And, I'm inspired. You're right about the resistance.

You have my condolences, so sorry yo her about your friend...

We often hit forks in the road some we pay attention to an some we don't. We always need to be in the present but so many of us live either in the past or are worried about the future. Great Job looking up an Dancing in the rain!!!

Hi Derek;

Well, I've read again, something you've written; I've listened again, a while, for what's there in the words. That's where the writing bears fruit, after all, isn't it; if it's going to, i.e., in the reader, in the listener?

In friendships, what can be found; in what's developed, or not, in these relationships? Perhaps, the tree that bears fruit. These fruits, perhaps, and these may be many and varied, showing up and getting tasted in daily experience; like grief, for instance; universal, as it is, but always something that must be uniquely experienced; loss, a bittersweet fruit; the lifetime memories, sweet here no doubt; such a sudden loss though as this, a bitter pill, to swallow; for all concerned; yet taste one must, such fruits, from time to time.

We draw the lessons out that may be there to be drawn out, in life; from the words we read and listen to; via our own reflections; hopefully that's what we do, at least; something, or a process, for the writer and the reader both, which honors the event or experience being written about, or topic being reflected upon; the life of a friend, in this case. Resistance to grief, though, is futile; grief must be experienced, and moved through; like life and all its potential fruit or daily portions of bread or experience.

Thanks Derek, for writing. I read what you wrote here; I read the article about the accident; I read the "Resistance" article linked to (there's a lot to take in from that latter article, as well); I've read through many of the Comments.

Milton Olin, thanks for having been you, even if I never knew you; as a result of being you, lessons have been created to be drawn out, over a lifetime of living; no doubt, lessons impacting many, over that lifetime.

Now others will reflect on those, for a time, like Derek; drawing out the lessons, as they will, each in their own way; doing so, as your life and its impact is reflected upon; each friend then going forward, from there; moving on, as everyone does and must; but carrying a piece of you, with them.

It’s part of how the soul evolves, isn’t it?

Sorry, for your loss, Derek.

Everyone’s loss.

Cam

Writing would certainly honor his friendship and his life. He sounds like a remarkable person. Inspiring you to inspire others would certainly make a friend like that feel...satisfied. Like high-fiving the universe. "The distributed word is eternal", and in your words he will be eternal, too.

Sorry for your loss Derek. Thanks for writing this, I really needed to read it. I need to focus on some more important projects instead of busy work and this really helped. I have a few friends I share accounts with too. Tomorrow I'll start the day by telling them how much I appreciate them, then get to work on some of those delayed projects. I was turned on to your writings by Tim Ferriss today, I'll have to thank him too. Thanks again. Cheers, J.

Derek, thank you for writing and I'm so sorry to hear of this loss.

I too, have been grappling with this question of what constitutes worthy use of the limited time we have here, and I share your passion and commitment to writing. I wish I could write about all the topics I care about with a fraction of the eloquence I observe by others (including yourself). I have just completed a research paper as part of a doctoral program I am in; conducted three of my written musical arrangements in Berklee's Singers' Showcase concert; at the same time I had another article published in Indie Artist Magazine, and the looming question is "what next?".

Is this really the best use of my time? Your post gets me thinking. I've had my book project on the back burner for 7 years. 7 years! Will I ever finish it? I don't know. But thanks for reminding me to focus on what actually matters.

It's the people. Keep writing, Bro.

This is beautiful. So sorry for your loss.

Dear Derek,
I am so sad for your loss. How easily life can be snatched from us and it does make us ponder and wonder more in depth about what is most important & that is the good that we can give and take from a sad and sudden loss.

I'm crying too with you. I miss many folks that are no longer here for many years now & your loss reminds me of my own losses that were too sudden. I know they are still with me though in spirit. They are forever in my heart and soul, for they have touched me so with the warmth of love's glow while here, & have even appeared in dreams since passing to let me know they hear the tears falling even on the other side of this life.

I am glad to hear you will be writing. I've missed your writing.

Hello Derek I have seen emails from you in a long time ~ so sorry about Milt!! How to best use our time is an overwhelming consistent struggle. I just had one of those milestone birthdays and just lost a cousin who was several years younger than me. I am trying to focus on my music finally after some years of handling myriad other family issues and there are still so many other things trying to claim my time. SO PROCEED w/WRITING for MILT and the rest of us. And enjoy the holidays the best you can:)

Hello Derek I have seen emails from you in a long time ~ so sorry about Milt!! How to best use our time is an overwhelming consistent struggle. I just had one of those milestone birthdays and just lost a cousin who was several years younger than me. I am trying to focus on my music finally after some years of handling myriad other family issues and there are still so many other things trying to claim my time. SO PROCEED w/WRITING for MILT and the rest of us. And enjoy the holidays the best you can:)

Derek, I always like to read what you write. I am sorry for your loss but imagine your friend would like to be the inspiration for your taking up the pen again.
Actually, I have a FB account which is public in which I write a quote and a few introspective comments each day. A bit too much for FB but I get notes from people who find it inspiring. I am with you about how we use our time. I also love your book "cliff notes." Thanks for hopping back into the arena. We are all waiting . . .!

My writing coach once told me "I don't write what I think, I write to discover what I think".

Keep discovering Derek.
I love you dear friend.

Peleg

Derek: my heart goes out to you. I lost my brother (and last remaining family member) about a month ago ... still trying to wrap my brain around the fact that he's gone. So here I am at age 58 trying to figure it all out.

You have so many wonderful gifts Derek ... use them because you LOVE to use them. Don't worry about wasting time, we all need to step back once and a while and smell the roses. Besides tinkering is healthy and helps expand our brain and soul. That said, while I don't know you, you've never seemed the wasteful type.

Revel in life because you have friends and health and family and talent the desire to revel in ALL you do.

Good thoughts for you and your friend.

My prayers are with you. I pray for God to keep your Ministering Angels encamped around you.

2 Corinthians 1:3
“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;”

Psalm 30:5
King James Version (KJV)
5 For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Yes there's nothing like a reality check on your own mortality by the loss of someone dear and close to you to remind you of what's more important.
Writing is the one 'immortal' thing that humans can do to speak to all that come after you. I have lost count of the books, quotes, lyrics & blogs that have inspired me; from the thoughts of ancient poets (the rybiat of Omay Khyyam, the ballad of Reading jail) to modern tweets & your ebook.
So keep writing :)

Writing can be a creative act of spontaniety, like talking off the top of your head, expressing what you are feeling at that moment....then it's gone...evaporated into the cosmos....until ten years later your friend reminds you of what you said to them in a letter or a phone call, something you forgot but sure sounds like you could have said it...and you realize how powerful that thought was to the recipient ....and how freeing it was for you to express it. People have reminded me of things I said years ago...like when I heard "I Want To Hold Your Hand" for the first time around 1962, and told my friend " these guys are going to be the next big thing"...it wasn't until my friend mentioned this to me at my 20th high school reunion in 1987, that I had any idea I had been such a visionary.
Bob Dylan never seems to run out of songs, and you never seem to run out of interesting topics.

Dear Derek,
Thanks for your inspiration in the face of the shocking and sudden loss of our friend Milt Olin. Even though I had not been in touch with Milt for many years now, he was of great help to me and many others in the music business. My heartfelt condolences go out to his family and all of the people he touched with his wisdom and kindness who are mourning his passing.

I'm so sorry, Derek.

So sorry to hear of your loss Derek. Thank you for writing this post. It's important to realize how limited our time is and how important it is to focus on the most important things. Thanks again for all you do...
Bob

Thank you for the honest, oh-so-true kick in the ass. So sorry about your friend.

Yea was only thinking of you the other day. Was going to email you but you got in first. I will still send the other email. The funny thing it relates to this topic about life and wastes of time and not wastes of time. I wont say too much but you know how I was trying to get somewhere. Well i did, had so much happening lots of things had taken off and i was over wealmed over loaded and got super stressed. I just had to stop and priatize. I really have been on a path the last month of what is good for oneself backing off enjoying life or racing along in the fast lane. I think all things need to be balanced. I am not sure anything is a waste of time if its good for the inner soul and others inner souls. On your friend how unlucky to be in that wrong spot at the wrong time. Yea so many people I know have passed over lately and one in an accident with a 4 wheel motor bike on a dam bank. We have to be happy we get to stay a little longer in this world. I will leave it there. Once again nice to hear from you and have the best Christmas you can to you and your wife

Lou Reed died not long ago. He was 71. That's young. That's ten years older than me. So I gave myself a life span. Just made it up. Fifteen years. I've got fifteen years to live. Every minute that passes now is subtracted from those years. If I remember to keep my attention on this, it focuses the mind. What am I doing with my fifteen years. It's stories like that of Milt Olin. I bet he was too young to die. So Derek, you saw what does matter. Don't forget what you just said. Go well my friend. And Pay Attention.

Thank you. I needed that....

Thanks for sharing this, and sorry for your loss.

"Time spent doing one thing is time spent not doing something else. "
So true. Unfortunately we will always face this dilemma, no matter how well we prioritize things.

Sorry for your loss, Derek.

My condolences Derek. I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your thoughts at this time. It really is difficult to know what matters and what does not in our lives, you're absolutely right. I wish you much strength during this difficult time.

yes I lern allot from you and your letters
you need to right more my mentor..!!
sorry for your loss
love from jerusalem
all the very best
yehuda

Sorry to hear. Two years ago, I lost my Dad. It was the first real lesson I got in mortality. It taught no to be afraid of death. Death is a natural part of life. But it also taught me that what we do with our time is what's most important. You're story here just reinforced that lesson.

Oh Derek, I'm so sorry for your loss, how incredible of you to find the nugget of learning amidst your pain and thank you so much for taking the time to share it, these words are exactly what I needed to hear today. Sending love.

My condolences for the loss of your friend Derek. You are a wonderful and thought provoking writer with a talent for touching mind and soul. To realize this, trumps the importance of digital operating systems, is yet another gift from your departed friend. Peace be with you.

You're right about time, how it can be wasted. We all have the challenge of the moment to choose what is most important. When our lives are over we'll have to look back and ask ourselves did we manage our time here on earth to the best of our abilities. When we're doing what gets us excited, and peace, is a good indication that we are spending our time wisely. It was once said if you want to look like a genius, do what you're good at eighty percent of the time. Doing what you're good at is a good compass to guide you in proper use of your time.

Hi Derek,
So Sorry about your friend
Sounds like he helped you make up your mind to write: Again
Why not write about him ? Tell Your Story to the world, that would help
you to keep he,s memory Alive-- God Bless You//Connie

beautiful sentiment Derek. A sad story but it honors your friend.

Derek, what a superb way to honor your friend. I know the writing you will do, which you wouldn't have been inspired to do had this not happened, is going to cause miracleS in other people's lives. I like imagining that Milt somehow knows... Really sorry for the loss of this life when it seems like he had more to do. Thanks for the being an example of how it's always possible to create a constructive way for the grieving to contend with a tragedy, no matter what.

Sorry for your loss, in times of death we reach out to others instinctively. Writing is certainly one way to. IMHO though looking for existential meaning out of these things is important don't let it cloud your memories of your friend or frighten you into illogical conclusions. People who just write and write often have very little to say, so best to mix it up, some BSD tinkering, some dinners with friends, and some profound writing on the shortness and unpredictability of life. From my experience these type of things can cause of to chase our own tail too, if we can't let ourselves be sad.

So sorry for your loss, Derek. The happy side of this is that we've gained back you as a writer to share your incredible wisdom and help us in ways you don't even realize. Thank you for sharing your loss and inspiration with us, Derek! My heart goes out to you. Sending lots of love!

Praying for your friends family and for you brother. Pray=Preston Ray

My sincere condolences on your loss. What a lovely tribute to your friend.

Dear Derek, So sorry for your loss. Please keep writing. Your words, wisdom, experience and global sensitivity resonate with so many. I treasure what you write and always look forward to what you say. Thank you. You inspire me to complete my next project.

Sorry to hear about your friend....as Rumi says there is joy in grief so please do start writing again you have some inspiring knowledge to share.

Life has a way of refocusing our attention on what really matters and brings us joy. Thanks for the gift of your thoughts inspired by your friend.

Derek, I am sorry to hear of your loss but touched by your love for your friend, and it is our friendships that remind of us about the preciousness of our time on this planet.....obviously milt shows you how existentially important it is for you to write....what good fortune to have such a friendship. Yours,rajesh

So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your friend's family. A sudden death is shocking enough by itself, more so when the erratic driving behavior of another driver has caused your loss. (Years ago, an impaired driver killed my youngest son, a teen.) You honor your friend by your positive reflections and intentions.

It takes a lot of courage to write about this, Derek, and I'm sure glad you did. It's quite hard losing those we truly love and care about. My thoughts are with you, friend.

Your story can be a wake-up call to each and every one of us. I mean, we only live once. We're all going to die eventually. How 'bout we all start taking those steps forward, take a few risks, and truly live? Let's kick fear to the curb, and do something memorable, something truly remarkable.

Thank you for this post Derek, looking forward to future writings!

Sending you hugs DS...
I'm glad you'll be writing more!
I'm grateful for every word...
Love and Light to you.
B

Sorry for your loss!

You do, indeed, write very well : from the heart and clearly expressed! I never miss the opportunity to click on a link from sive.rs. Thank you.

It amazes me how tragedies always seem to be the catalyst for the aligning of one's perspective. The bump that gets us on track again.
Condolences on the loss of your friend, may his work live on in others.
Peace

...and, please continue to post. Your ideas and reflections inspire more than you realize.
Thanks for them.

I am sorry for your loss Derek. But let Milton resurrect from the ashes and live through your heart.

I'm sorry for your loss. So tragic.

Derek,

So sorry to hear of your friends sudden death. Thank you for sharing this article with your readers. It is meaningful and timely, yes, keep writing Derek!

sending you love and light

Any words I could add feel superficial…..I am sorry for your loss, Derek….your writing and contact with others is a gift…….thank you; whatever form in which you choose to express your creativity….you love and are loved….. I see it,I hear it. Keep on keeping' on….that forward movement itself, is a great tribute to your friend Milt, and to the spirit of life itself….thank you.

That's a tough one. Stay strong Derek, your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

Derek I feel you are my friend
You've been writing me for years
Hope your writing doesn't end
For your wisdom I'm all ears

So very sorry to have to hear
That you have lost a friend
Milt's soul and warmth lives on it's clear
His light will never end

Thanks Derek for what you do
And keeping us updated
It's always good to year from you
Your thoughts are so well stated

I encourage you write lots more
We like the things you say
What you give us is Derek lore
You brighten up the day!

I'm sorry, Derek. Best wishes from here in Berlin. And - I'm looking forward to reading what you write.

Thank you for the reminder..

So very sorry for your loss Derek. And a worthy tribute to your friend.

Sorry about your friend. Life's lessons often come to us during period's of difficulty or tragedy. You're a great writer not just because of your style but because of the uncommon subjects you address and your technical abilities to share them in this format and others. I for one am glad you'll be writing again. I will cherish my life and the lives of others a little bit more. Thanks.

Hi Derek,

I am very sorry to hear about your friend. "My faith is my inheritance" was the reading at my Dad's funeral and I am grateful for that inheritance and my faith in Jesus and eternal life. He has helped with a lot of losses.

I ditto your writing. Nice. I feel the same way except I have not done much writing and keep getting distracted just trying to survive with bills.

Derek, your notes hit he nail on the head. I feel more power to write and do business. May the spirit and inspiration of Milton live on in you and others.

You're a master of perspective.

Yes, write. Yes, videotape. Yes, put more of you out in the world, as much as you are comfortable with (because time is short and you have people you love who want your time, too, I believe) -- because the world needs to hear more from people like you. And soon I will join you in doing just that. But mostly, I am SO so very sorry to hear your friend died, just like that, and your world is twisted out of shape. I send cyber love and hugs.

Sorry to hear about your friend Derek. I lost two brothers to auto accidents and I always wished I could have said good bye. Its odd that we take for granted like saying a few words.

You rock Derek. And you inspire us. And we all need more people in our lives like you who inspire us. This is an incredible gift to have. And I have sad gratitude for the nature of your reminder. Thanks for all you give us. I feel sure Milt felt he was one of the luckiest people to count you among his friends.

Milts sudden and tragic passing is sad indeed. Your change in perspective will honor him forever. Yes, Derek ... Please keep writing. Sending you and Milt a heart to heart hug from Austin, Texas.

My deep condolence with what happened.
Eagerly waiting for your new work

Thank you for this reminder, Derek. I've been a fan of yours for years but have never sent you a note. I owe you many. I owe you a shout-out note as a fellow Berklee grad. I owe you a thank-you note for CD Baby, this amazing thing you created in such a unique way for so many of us indie artists who needed what you created. I owe you a thank-you note for e-mails that made me laugh. I owe you my thoughts on your lovely little book, part of which I read aloud at the Board meeting of my non-profit organization yesterday. I owe you. You are a presence in my life, one that I am grateful for.

10 years ago this year, I spent 9 months taking care of a friend who was dying. It was the most exhausting, gut-wrenching, honest, privileged time of my life. My friend passed away in early 2004. She left this world with lots of regrets. Her life, lived and un-lived, were great lessons for me. I took some time after her death to grieve and to recover. Then I took stock. I got rid of all the things I was doing in my life to sustain doing the things I loved and just started doing what I loved. I became a full-time musician, and I started this lovely little non-profit I mentioned above.

But time passes, and even the most profound lessons we learn diminish in power as the years pass. Your post, on what is nearly the 10-year anniversary of Kathy's passing, is a good reminder. Thank you.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Take care of yourself as you grieve.

Best,
Hilary

My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Derek. That is such a tragedy, but what a lesson that has come out of this!

Funny how your words crystallized what has been on my mind. I've been thinking about wearing basic black all the time, so I don't have to worry about what to wear. It seems like suck a time suck. I want to pare down on my things. I know you did this long ago. I finally understand why. We grow too soon old and too late smart.

Derek: So sorry about the loss of your friend Milton. I lost my best buddy 23 years ago. He died suddenly. Hardly a day goes by where I still remember a friendship that started at age 7. Every day above ground is a gift.

Simple but powerfully inspiring post.

THANK YOU!

Zen

Funny how your words crystallized what has been on my mind. I've been thinking about wearing basic black all the time, so I don't have to worry about what to wear. It seems like suck a time suck. I want to pare down on my things. I know you did this long ago. I finally understand why. We grow too soon old and too late smart. I'm sorry about your loss. xo

The ripple effects of each post is far greater than you can imagine.

And, I believe Milt lives on and feels honored. Thank you Derek.

Scientific evidence:
http://www.amazon.com/Science-Afterlife-Experience-Immortality-Consciousness-ebook/dp/B0098O9F32

Inspiring possibilities (probabilities?) ~
http://www.amazon.com/Afterlife-Unveiled-Telling-About-Their-ebook/dp/B0056A1IRS

A wonderfully written, imaginative & hopeful story, freely available:
www.facebook.com/asoulsjourneybook

Thank you Derek,
Your courage, resolve and thoughtfulness is an inspiration....Very sad to lose those close to us.....

Wow, I saw this on KCAL9 last night. Sorry for your loss. (As an aside: I can't believe that the victim's best friend was on HN. Small world.)

Derek - sorry for your loss! This is a reminder that every day, every moment is a gift and not to waste any of it! Thanks for what you do!

My deepest condolences derek.

I've gotten to the point myself that I figure everything that should be written about has been written about already so I told myself I'd quit and focus more on my artwork. My Mom had a stroke and it was 18 hrs before we found her. She and my Dad are now in the same nursing home room and the rest of my family are not helping a lot. My friends are still wanting me to play. I tell myself I'm not going to write anymore but I know when the stress lets up I will. Those who write will always write because life goes on and someone has to tell others about it. : ) .

Sorry for your loss, Its unforunate.

>thinking about the things we do with our time. What's worthy and what's a waste.

True.

Derek, I am so sorry to hear about your friend and I know there are no words that can heal the hurt; however, it's good to hear that you will be writing again and sharing your positiveness with the world.

Deepest condolences to you.

Your writing and your presentations inspire me. Go with your heart and do what will make a difference in your and other's lives.

I am so sorry. i wish i could say something more encouraging. But i'm sure you are a great friend and milt appreciated you alot.

Sorry about your friend,Derek.

Hi Derek,
So very, very sorry for your loss. What you wrote really found a place in my heart. Last week, I just lost one of my best friends, and cellist in our group. An amazing, creative, loving person full of vitality and spontaneity. Life is so precious and fragile....
Thank you for your words. I look forward to more.

Derek,
Sorry for your loss. This same tragedy happened to a friend of mine. It is always a shock when life takes such a dramatic turn but hopefully people will react by focusing on the important things we tend to overlook.
May you live as long as you want but not want as long as you live.

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this with us, Derek! I'm so sorry to hear about your friend and pray that you find comfort in remembering the time you had with him. I've also been thinking about how I'm spending my time- what should be priority and what should not. I feel I've been spending time doing some things that are lesser than other things that I could have done in that time. I'm going to try to prioritize better and think about what I'm prioritizing and how. I want to use my time in the wisest way possible with each minute. There are so many things that I've left off doing- things I love and things that are important or a passion to me. I want to help others accomplish their goals and endeavors whenever I can, but I truly need to keep my focus on my goals, keeping them at the forefront and letting all else be extra after the main and most important things to me are done along my path. I believe as I focus on and continue to work towards building my house, I'll better be able to add what I'm learning through the process to help others build theirs more effectively. #applyingwisdominmydoings

On this day, six years ago, my dad passed away quite unexpectedly. It was a rude awakening that we are all mortal, that nothing is permanent, except That which we must get in touch with: the divine spark within us, the evolving soul, the very reason for our existence.

Milt's soul needs peace and support of his family and friends (like you). He still exists, but has shed his body like one sheds old clothes. May Peace be with him.

Love and light to you Derek and to Milt Olin's family. Looking forward to reading your upcoming thoughts.

Derek,
I'm so truly sorry for your loss. You're dear friend Milton has given you a few gifts. A nudge back on the path that helps the souls of others and feeds yours - and a loving reminder as to why our time here is so precious. I feel sad for you as you grieve the loss of him - but I have a strong feeling that he's riding by your side cheering you on!
Rest in Peace Milton

My condolences, Derek. I feel you, bro - am really sorry for your loss.

Thank you for writing again. If there is something like life-after-life then your friend will appreciate it, too - and some day, you will meet him again, and he will assure you that he does, and that he was happy watching you writing this.

Thank you for sharing your story. - Seize the day, Derek. Take care.

my condolences. it's sad, strange, and powerful how the death of a love one inspires the living to live.

Peace.

Thanks again Derek, for encouraging me to get on with IT.

So sorry for your loss Derek. Seems we're here on borrowed time and there's no future guaranteed. I agree writing is the way to bring the important things forward, to bring meaning to the buzz of existence. I'm writing my memoirs, writing poetry, and in the studio tomorrow to record a new song. I think it's about setting the fires of creativity, bringing light forward in the midst of the trivial and the darkness and the tragedies which surround us. No matter how bad life gets, music and the power of words help make life worth living. All healing my friend. Lkp

I'm sorry for your own, and those close to Milton's loss. This dedication is a powerful testament to Milton's memory.

Hi Derek, I feel deeply sorry for your loss. Recently, I lost 4 of my friends in a car accident http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-11-06/pune/43731241_1_toll-plaza-cctv-footage-toll-post

Life indeed is limited in time and scope. Thanks for the post and happy writing!

Always a shock and then a pause. Death is immediate and words inadequate. Thanks for sharing. Best wishes.

Derek, What a wonderful and appropriate way to honor the life of Milton Olin. It's mysterious how things happen in our lives (or the lives of others we love) that bring us back to center, back to the things that really matter. Yes, I agree, it is time to return to writing because that is where you can share one of your great gifts. Thank you for sending your thoughts and your sorrows out to the world.

I appreciate your writing. I have learned and opened my mind. I look forward to many more of your gifts to be shared.

I really relate to this. Thank you for sharing and shaking me awake. Please write more your influence is very powerful.

Derek, I am sorry for your loss. Keep writing,you are a wise man and your friend would have wanted you to continue what you love and what you are good at. Your message in this post will hopefully awaken some of us who have meaningful things to share and no time to waste. Time is a precious,life is short...make the most of it.
Blessings to you.

I am one of those you helped. You explained to me your process for taking book notes. I am still grateful for it, as I am for your collection of notes.

I am sorry for your loss. A friend of a good man is a good man. Milt must have been a good man.

Sorry to hear about your loss Derek. I went through that this year while traveling during Chinese New Year. My first day on the trip I learned one of my best friends passed. It definitely was a weight on the trip. Thanks for writing.

Woa... How tragic. So powerful to turn grief into something meaningful. I'm sure your friend will be looking down on you glad you are consciously using your time to make the world a better place.

Thanks for your writing. May your heart heal. A poignant reminder of how fragile this life really is.

I feel sorry for your loss, Its really heart touching and at the same time inspiring too.
Looking forward to read you and try help people as you do.

Sorry, to hear about your friend unfortunate incident. Nice to have you writing again

Thank you for sharing your thoughts Derek. Be good to yourself.

I too am sorry for your loss, however, time wasted doing something you enjoy... is never wasted time. If Dual- Booting was a challenge (and we all know you love a challenge), if you learned from it and enjoyed it, it wasn't wasted time. I too have learned some things from your writings, but, I also know that a person has to recharge their batteries. You can't always work, you can't always impart knowledge. Sometimes you just need to lay under a tree and let the winds blow.

Dear Derek, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend's life. Grief has a way of making us appreciate how precious our time is here and how easy it is to waste away the hours on irrelevant stuff.I for one have always appreciated your words and you have often inspired me and given me the strength to push myself a little harder. Thank you. RIP Milton

I'm sorry to hear this.cheer up

I'm very sorry about Milton!. My condolences to his family and friends. And concerning your decision, I cannot think of a better tribute! Best regards!

This was so nice Derek! Last time I saw Milt, I got him so high, he couldn't talk. A one of a kind. It is hard to understand this stuff...

You are a good man.

Jim

Sorry to hear about the loss.

Very rightly said, "It's so easy to waste time doing that stuff that's of no importance, no challenge, no benefit to anyone, not even yourself." and a lot of time we don't realize but keep doing the same things again and again only to fill up our time.

Hey Derek, I've been reading your emails before you left cd baby and today I openend your email and began reading it. I got to the phrase that said, "It's so hard to fight the resistance to do the more difficult but more important thing. Finishing that book. Writing that song. Launching that project." Curiously I clicked on the link that said resistance (Something I don't normally do while reading your emails) and it sent me to your notes on the book The War of Art by Steven Pressfield. Something I needed to read to help me break through my resistence and move forward. Some very wise and inspiring words. Thanks for sharing that.

Hi Derek,
I have a small music library. I try to remember every day that my job is to help musicians and songwriters earn money from their craft. Finding a way to help others make a living is what is important for me. But the most important thing in my life is making sure on a daily basis that my wife, Jenny, knows how much I love and respect her. If something happens to either one of us tomorrow I'm safe in the knowledge that we both understand that.
Chas Ferry

So sorry for your loss Derek. Would love to see you write more often.

Hi Derek, Yes I have missed your inspiring, sincere,emotional words of wisdom.
Thank you, I needed these thoughts today, thank you for sharing them with me.
What can I do for you?...
Sincerely with love and peace from kay

So sorry for your loss, Derek.

I spent my whole life doing things that I was expected to do, rarely doing anything for me, or for the universe (sorry of that sounds corny, but there it is), not necessarily for humans, but for the universe. These days, in my condition of almost total burnout and disgust, I do things for me, and for the universe. I prefer playing my guitar or banjo out in the forest - for animals and trees - for one thing - I won't have to listen to any smartass, and I won't have to be on the receiving end of any egotistical, pathetic little men. And, it's just so much more relaxing and enjoyable to be out there in the world, rather than in a room surrounded by walls and angry people.

When somebody gets to leave this horrible place, I'm always happy for them, not sad. I may miss them, but still, happy for them.

I admire that from an event like like, you've chosen to make positive changes in your own life as a result. That's a life well lived right there.

So sorry for your loss, I grew up in Calabasas and I saw someone post about the crash, only a few seconds later going on hackernews to see this post. I am glad to see you found the silver lining from this tragedy, but my condolences nonetheless, stay strong.

What a loving tribute to your friend. Making more work that matters allows him to continue to impact the world.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry to hear this awful story, Derek! My deepest condolences!!

So sorry to hear of the tragic loss of you friend Derek.
God Bless you and family for this festive season.

Bill,

I'm so sorry to hear this news, Derek.

Derek, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

Please write more

I saw your post on the RSS feed this morning and went straight to it. I'm sorry to learn of the tragic death of your friend….My condolences to you.
I learned only recently how the death of JFK had led Wayne Dyer to decide change his career which has led him to give inspiration and encouragement to millions of people. If in death a person can be a cause for good then surely we can leave no greater legacy.
I would like you to know that I am hugely inspired by your writing….the generosity of your sharing and your inspirational attitude to life.
Your book 'Anything you Want' is a most inspirational read and I have shared it with many people.
Thank you for the hope and encouragement you share so selflessly.
'Anam Cara' [Irish for Soul Friend] by John O'Donohoe http://www.johnodonohue.com/books is a wonderfully inspiring book which I found really helpful following the death of my sister.

My dear friend,

My deepest condolences. I cannot imagine how hard it is to loose a close friend. Maybe 'loose' is a wrong word. Maybe it is letting go. Letting go of the need to see him with your eyes open. I am sure you can see him with your eyes closed. If Milton inspires you to write more, we all will see him without ever meeting him. For all the future inspiration to come through your words, I thank Milton.

*heartache*

Glad you will be writing again - I find your points of view very helpful. Thank you!

A great piece right there,its amazing how we dont think of time this way and if we do we think we have all of it.
May he rest in peace

Thank you.

I am sorry for your loss, to lose a friend before it is their time to go. Everyday I drive my car and see bycycles trying to share the road with cars and think how incredibly dangerous that is. I am glad to hear from you again.

I hear you. I'll keep you and him in my thoughts. And your message

Sorry to hear about your loss of a great friend, but on the positive side of things, I look forward to your writing.

Very sorry for you and your friend's family

So sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss. How beautiful that in your time of need you pour out instead. Thank you. Your words are like a friend passing me a wrench. Like a kid on training wheels, with the rear wheel over a hole & spinning, I've been pumping for months and going no where. Thank you for the reminder thats it's not how hard we pump, but where we go that matters. Often the very things we're trusting to hold us upright are the things keeping us stuck. I've waste so much energy on ideas and tasks that really don't matter, leaving me drained and frustrated. Now if I can just loosen these bolts...

So sorry for your loss, Derek. I'm glad you are writing. All writers, all artists have changes in focus every now and then. To be honest we can only be in one place at any given time. The time we spend in each place is always of value. Your writing helped me to become more aware and to stop resisting and to move forward. Wishing you all the best and healing in awareness. Respect.

I am so sorry for your loss! I know how you must feel right now, and for the rest of your life. I have lost two of my best friends this year. I am still mourning, but i guess i have accepted the fact, that they will be in my life forever in form of feelings, thoughts and wisdom. But still, i miss them terribly. I wish you all the best Derek! Much love from Budapest!

Terrible news and Very sad, Im sorry to hear of your loss my friend.......On you writing more, welcome news, I for one love reading about your positive ways through and encouragement of others (Us)
Good luck Derek
Brian

Don't do it for us, don't do it for Milt. Do it for you.

"And if you're doing it to be remembered, know that no one will be. Not even the Beatles, certainly not Steve Jobs. The sands of time will bury them like the pyramids.

Life is about experience. Eat it alive, while you still can."

(Via Bob Lefsetz - who does write, quite often...)

So glad be hearing from you again mate
:)

My deepest sympathies on your loss Derek.

Sorry for the loss, Derek. After rain comes a rainbow. Always.

Now would be a good time to start writing again. Very sorry about the cyclist. Terrible world.

Derek, I'm so sorry about your friend. I also lost a dear friend recently and it's devastating.

I totally agree with not talking time for granted. Our daughter was born ten days ago and I spend so much time looking at her, noticing the tiny changes every day and I know that it's exactly what I should be doing because it feels me with joy.

So glad you decided to start writing again. I wish you everything that's good for the holiday season.

So sorry! Precious memories, always in our hearts and minds! Welcome back Derek!

Sorry for your friend Derek... Thank you for your inspiration.

I watched the Steve Jobs movie (Ashton Kutcher) and had similar thoughts. I am not naive enough to believe the movie was an accurate representation of Steve's life. But I wonder if Steve would have changed some decisions? I wonder if at any point he would have traded the success at Apple for something else?

Derek - what a loss - sudden, senseless,
My son was just in a car accident a couple nights ago - his fault - stitches in the lip, but that will heal - I am grateful he is alive. Reading what you wrote - helps me remember that. Thank you.

Very unfortunate, sorry.

I have to agree with Solveig above, though. Write out of passion, not necessity. You also need to take a break from doing things to avoid routines. Having idle times (like dual-booting FreeBSD and OpenBSD) is OK :) Time spent having fun is not time wasted. Sometimes you just enjoy existing...

"You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life." – Albert Camus

My condolences.

Thanks for reminding us about 'the tale of lost time'.

Derek, Sorry for your loss, and special prayers to Milt's family. The best thing you can do is to celebrate Milt's legacy on earth.

My heart goes out to you Derek.

Hello Derek,

I received your email this morning and burst out into tears. I sympathize and empathize with you, understanding how one feels in such a situation. I am truly sorry for the loss of your great friend. Like I said, I was in tears as my heart was carried into the psychological street of experiences similar to yours and in silence, I tried to avoid reliving some mental scars that never seem to fade away. And most painful and thought provoking of all, is the news of a similar situation surrounding a great loved one you either intend to meet or haven't met for a long while, yet he or she has been all alive in the core of your daily thoughts and memory.

Death is a mystery. Your friend was healthy and doing fine. He was quite enjoying life and, from what you said, one would conclude that death would have the last thing at the back of his mind. Certainly he never thought about it much less expected it. But all of a sudden, that uninvited guest came. Death; death, is a mystery but a mystery only Jesus Christ has unveiled and overcome.

As I read Your email the biblical discourse of Jesus came to mind where He said that the life of a man doesn’t consist of how much wealth he has, how healthy he looks or feels or even how connected he is in life. If money cannot guarantee life itself; if having worked for years, being so popular, yet one’s life, the life we strive to secure by the abundance of whatever we have, isn’t secured or guaranteed for even a second, I can strongly say that anyone who is so reasonable would demonstrate his sanity by taking a pause and reflect again or do a rethink.

Brother Derek, my heart and prayers go to you and family. What I am sharing with you was provoked by your letter. I mean that in a good sense of it. These thoughts are not just my, they are that of Jesus and I just share His views about life itself. He said to the man who was longing for fame, wealth and making it his priority in life to “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions” (Luke 12:15).
Then He added with a story that, “The ground of a certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest. He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’ (meaning he has become so wealthy)
“Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain. And I’ll say to myself, ‘You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.’ But God said to him, ‘‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’
This is how it will be with whoever stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward God” (Luke 12:16-21). As I read I thought this guy was smart, he’s rich and famous. He’s got great business ideas. But I realized God called him a fool. Does that say something to you? It is true that one can have so much and still be hungry? is it true that one can study so hard on erroneous educational system? Is it true that one can work so hard on what isn’t important?

Let me conclude with your very words, “I've been crying off and on all morning, thinking about the things we do with our time. What's worthy and what's a waste...It's so easy to waste time doing that stuff that's of no importance, no challenge, no benefit to anyone, not even yourself.”

The things we do with out time is it worthy? A good question? Is it important? If you left such questions for all to answer independently, you would get an ocean of responses.

But simply and truly put: if our hard work, wealth and fame cannot guarantee life or secure our future from death, then the priority has been misplaced. If spending your time on whatever couldn’t secure your very life from death, then the important issue has either been misunderstood, not known or not prioritized.

But what is this important issue? It is knowing the one that can save anyone from the power and torment of death. I have found out that: That person is JESUS CHRIST THE SAVIOR.

You see, Derek, the bible makes it clear what to prioritize in life when it said to, seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (matthew 6:33). Seeking God’s kingdom is the priority in life, it guarantees us safety from the power of death. Derek, I will encourage you to see what John 3:16 also says about this Jesus Christ. John says it was for that singular reason to capture death in the life of anyone who believes. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

Isn’t that simple? to accept Jesus so escape death? Life and, not death, is the will of God for you and me.

Finally, while we send our condolences, we would like to let you know that this life saving project of God via Jesus Christ is a demonstration of the love of God for you and me, and that, it is the sole reason for CHRISTMAS. Christmas bring the opportunity for people to overcome the power of death; for people to prioritize the choices of life; for people to know and experience the saving power of God; for people to do business on earth without the fear of death over their lives.

Lighten the pain of loss as you look to Jesus Christ the comforter and savior of mankind. May the Lord God continue to bless you and family. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

sorry to hear that mate :/

You have always been an inspiration Derek. Would love to meet and chat with you again. Maybe we can arrange a trip to the Cayman Islands for you one of these days.

Wow dude. So sorry to hear this.

Be strong.

So sorry for you best wishes from entire Brazil

Sorry to hear about your loss. It seems that sometimes when we celebrate the life of another we also re-engage with our own essence.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Derek.

This is SO important for me to hear , to have reinforced. I work on these kinds of time management issues all the time.. thanks

Hi Derek, what a sad occasion to start writing again... But I am thankful for that you are here.
I put down my thoughts in my blog, for it's much longer than an ordinary comment would allow, when you will have time to look at it: the swan song of a young band, a poem, how I got new friends and colleagues through the death of a musician, a thank you for giving me inspiration http://www.andreagerak.com/blog/please_derek_sivers_keep_on_writing
Best, Andrea

Sorry to hear about the loss of your good friend. You're a good guy. Thanks for all your inspiration. I hardly ever comment but this article is very timely for me...

Derek, my condolences at the loss of your dear friend. May the good memories bring you comfort and a smile through the tears off loss you shed.May I please add that my heart goes out to you. In the days and months ahead, may the positive thoughts of many offering support be real to you, and give you a reason to pause and feel the sunshine on your face when you most need it. Rick Garcia

This week we celebrate the lives of friends who are gone, always too soon...irreplaceable unique beings whom we love and who loved life. Keep writing Derek, a little inspiration goes a long way... Will be dedicating my next ride to Milton

Great word.
We will all run out of time before we run out of opportunities. In our effort to get the most out of life it pursue the things that scream the loudest at the sacrifice of the things that are most important.

Teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom. -Psalm 90:12

Wonderful thoughts from that tragic event, thanks, Derek.

Okay Milt. I guess I better start writing again too, for the same reasons. Peace to you and your family.

My condolences Derek. This post in itself will inspire.

So sorry about your loss. You have been a source of encouragement and inspiration to me for years. Thank you for openly sharing your heart and life, reminding me what is really important.

Derek, so sorry for the loss of your friend. Your visionary heart has and will continue to multiply inspiration through many others who thrive on looking ahead and working to change the world for good.

You hit me right in the heart as you always do. The important things in life don't require taking time but making time!

They are things that are there for the taking but require us to allow them access.

I want many things in my life that will bring the ability to do what I seek in security and fulfillment but if I only focus on the prize, I may get it and have no one to share it with when I obtain it.

Write Derek because it allows you to do what you do so very well and that is GIVE. We all need a Derek Sivers in our lives and in the world especially today.

Funny how something do terrible is necessary to make us see what we might have not until it was too late for us.

My condolences on a tragic loss that will I surely be turned into a positive by you!

Your friend

John

Dearest Derek,

Your writings and actions have been an inspiration to myself, colleagues, and students over the last several years-from your time at Berklee, to your lectures on TED, to your guides created for all of us that give us portals to the world (The Vietnam cover Is cool, btw).
You are a good man. While we (I and all I touch, at least) are recipients of your gifts when you write, we are also recipients of your gifts and light as you stand with us in line at the grocery store. One of my investors said "Martin, we don't invest in your music. We invest in the type and character you are, and we wish to propagate that through your conduit of music".

Can't be said enough: You are a good man. You have changed this planet so much for the better already by your thought and deed. Thank you in advance: for either more writing, or just smiling in line at the soul next to you as you get coffee/tea.

As always, let me know if I can be of service to your vision.

Many thanks, Derek. I am sorry for your loss, and my heart goes out to you, family, and friends at this unexpected and tragic time.

Love and light.

Respectfully,

Martin Case

Seeing what matters, what's worthy and then *acting* on those things is really the Name of the Game. You have honored your dear friend and the lesson he left. My sympathies and best wishes. Good to have you back.

It is all about choices.... luckily we can make choices because we are free .... but sometimes we don´t see that freedom . Thanks for reminding me, Derek !

Absolutely, Derek. It's people being really petty about tiny insignificant details that gets me - it's as if they think they'll live for ever. Perhaps getting obsessed about details is a way of avoiding the big picture, but I do sometimes wonder if certain people know how precious it is to be alive.

I'm sorry about your friend. A colleague of mine that I appreciated recently died at age 42, so I think I know what you're going through. Sometimes, it just doesn't seem right at all, does it ?

This was a great article. You have my profound condolences.

I'm truly very sorry for your loss. In only stumbled upon this post whilst skimming HN. Admittedly, I had no idea who you were until I did some searching and found your website and profile.... You sound like a very creative, and positive person... and once again... I'm very sorry for your loss....
Keep writing...

Greetings Derek,

Thank you for sharing your heart with us and sorry for your lost but we can learn from unpleasant experiences in life to be positive and creative as you are.

Warmly, Ahmad

My Condolences. Looking forward to more great writing from you.

So sorry Derek. My condolences.

Thank you for sharing your words of wisdom through the years. I don't always get to read them right away but they are always fresh and new and insightful.

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss.
And oh, I am so grateful for your writing this.
I needed this reminder.
We all do. All the time.
Thank you.

I loved Milt so much. This is exactly what he did, inspired and encouraged one to follow their dreams. Yes, write everyday!

<3

Condolences and appreciation xo all the best Derek

I'm so sorry for your loss Derek. My thoughts are with you.

Hi Derek,
So good to see your email today, it's been some time now. I always enjoy your articles. This one brought tears; for your sudden and unexpected loss my condolences and for the wisdom shared, as it's so true and something that came to me so strongly last night.
Instead of worrying about having or not having, or feeling sad about the past (a total waste of time and energy, to engage in creative expression, be it writing, music or whatever brings us joy. We are here to create and that is our legacy that lives on and on... Something to be joyous about and most importantly grateful for.

YES write write write...thank you
Ermina

Art heals. This I know. 4 deaths of loved ones this year. Being in the moment, without judgement, surrending to whatever feeling you have in that moment, and doing whatever it is that feels right, in that moment. Just be present to what is. Thank you Derek for reaching out and giving to us, because in your grief, in your expression of your art, you help us heal. A big hug to you...

all moments fall in to the infinite one moment of loving a friend so dearly that the taking away moment feels the fire of loss so fiercely as to catapult us to a new level of being: they become a part of our own molecules and help steer all our next moments....

Derek, this is so sad, and I'm so sorry. As a composer, this is what I struggle with most: filtering what's most important from the daily sea of chores and distractions. I always try to remind myself that what's most important in my life is my family, my work (meaning, my writing), and being a good person overall. We never know how long we have on this Earth, and how long our friends and loved ones will be around, so every moment counts.

I am sorry for your loss and at the same time looking forward to your wisdom. If more people learn from you because of Milt's death, it will not have been in vain. Mourning is a sign that the life lost was a worthy one. Remember the good and wallow in the loss.

Thank you for sharing, Derek, healing prayers. I truly appreciated his help after you had referred me to him. He spoke highly of you and was passionate about what he did. RIP Milt Olin.

I'm so sorry about your friend Milton. They say everything happens for a reason. Maybe Milton's passing has a positive side. I lost my husband suddenly two years ago; we were married since we were teenagers (44 years) and were best friends. I couldn't even imagine a life without him, but life is still good (or good again, I should say). I know you'll miss Milton, but something good will happen because of his friendship.

Sorry for your loss, Derek.

The passing of time, she wears camouflage and hides in plain sight. Do what you will and as you can. I have lost many friends, those who've gone by their own hand, and those who've just gone. Sorry for this sad awakening, but so goes life for us all. The muse lives in work.

"Thanks for sending me an email about this Derek because your emails are always "Human" , that is - coming from a genuine heart ..and therefore glad to be part of your family here.. GOD bless your friend Milton and to you for strength and faith.." ~ Brian Vassallo

So sorry about your friend. I think you are awesome and inspiring. Thanks. Andrea

This is extremely true and inspiring. Thanks for sharing Derek and happy to hear you're writing again. I'm sorry for your loss.

My condolences, Derek.

May his soul rest in perfect peace, We all have 27,500 days as average life span
less the days we already lived, the balance is too small to waste on trivial.
Take time for refection, live is really too short to be little.

Hi Derek,

I'm very sorry to learn of your best friend's tragic death.
Please accept my deepest condolences.

Unfortunately, it's these very tragic incidents that reminds how short and unpredictable life is. I have learned this same lesson many years ago, and several times over since then.

I fully agree with your conclusion and decision to make sure you spent your time on the things that matter most to you. I try to do the same every day. I also try to make sure that my life has meaning and purpose, that hopefully provides value to others.

I look forward to more of your posts and articles.

My Deepest Sympathy,
Ziv.

Dear Derek:

Having spoken with Milt, I can see why he was such a great friend, as well as your closeness with him. A very honest and good man who cut right to the truth. People like Milt are rare and we are so in need of people such as he! He said to me, "I am here, if you need me." What more can a man say? God bless Milt!

Yes! You do need to write! We all need your wisdom and insight into the varied topics and things to which we have not a clue. Stick with your gut my friend, it serves you well, and the rest of us too. As always, your friend, Brad

I've been a new reporter since 1972. I write daily. If I don't write, I get rusty. I don't get writer's block. Some days I am a better writer than other days. I avoid a lot of that by writing daily.

A friend like Milt would tell you to write.

Eventually the pain of the loss will fade and you will be left with his memory.

Sorry for your loss.

Thanks for the encouragement ! I write for a homeless newspaper call Madison Street Pulse and since I don't get paid sometimes I feel it's a waste of time but people keep telling me they enjoy my articles so I agree with you that writing for others even if it doesn't pay money is still time well spent because it helps others

My condolences to you and your friend's family. What an inspiration and compliment to your friend. Thank you for the important reminder!

My condolences to you Derek. Sudden incidents like this are the hardest to stomach. Dual boot that machine & waste some time reminiscing. Being productive is good as long as you're not trying to get lost in it all.

sorry for your loss man. i have been searching lately for the key to unlock my own potential in a 40+, post divorce life. been listening to podcasts related to entrepreneurship and wrestling with my own blocks for yrs now. smart passive income podcast lead me to thework podcast this morning, and now this post. signs are all around, and your post was one of them today. thanks for sharing and i look forward to you writing more. i personally need it.

This is truly a tragedy. Having downloaded all of Springsteen and all of Neil Young, it seems Milt was preparing to do something that would take a lot of musical fuel to keep him going. It is a shame we will never find out what he had in mind.

Here's to Milt! Here's to writing to honor his memory, and to share what you have in mind through your writing, Derek.

My deepest sympathies to you and to all Milt's loved ones for your loss.

Gina

I'm a friend of Eric Jensen's and he sent me your email thinking of my best friend Michael who was killed by a hit and run driver in Santa Rosa, CA earlier this year. He was one of the healthiest people I knew and was coming back from meditating in a country park when he died. I still think about him every day, and like you, I needed to write. What resulted was a funny, heartfelt tribute to a beautiful human being that I shared with friends and family. The process of death and what follows has pushed me to consider what it is that makes us human and how important it is to make the time to connect with friends and family in real time.

I'm so sorry you lost your friend in such a tragic way. It is a raw wound that heals very slowly.

Sorry for your loss Derek.

The unknown timeline we're all on is a real (and sometimes scary) thing.

Writing more is a great way to honor Milt's life. I look forward to reading your posts and remembering your friend.

May Peace BE With HIM!

I m gonna start Drawing again ...!

I'm very sorry for your loss. I wish I could say something helpful. Complicated Linux issues may not be important, but they really can help you work through unrelated issues.

Hi Derek. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. This kind of news would strike me too and make me sad and be more appreciative for every minute in my life. You definitely need to continue writing, this is your gift from God.

thank you

You are so right about wasting time and it is so precious. I'm so sorry for your loss. Terry Currier sent me an email this morning also about Milt, which I haven't opened yet, but will do so now. Take care Derek.

Deepest on the loss of your friend,may the times and memories you shared carry you through this period of grief.The continuity of your writing is welcome,thanks for sharing.R.I.P.

A beautiful piece of writing in honour of your friend. Sorry for your loss

He truly loved everyone to the core.

Write. Nice to have something I don't have to delete . . .

My condolences. Thanks for the excellent post. I've been struggling with finishing my book, juggling work, personal projects and a bit too much veg time. Your point strikes home, let's see if I can kick my ass into gear.

BTW, I don't expect you'll recall, but we met in 2006 (or was it 2004?) when you were working on a rewrite of CD-Baby at your place in Santa Monica. I've been following your posts and such since. Congratulations on your many successes!

Hi Derek, I've always enjoyed your work, and updates. I'm sure there is a silent majority who equally read and are inspired. My thoughts are with you at this time.

Although your messages are infrequent, they always register before all the other noise in my email inbox....

Regards
Matt

Derek ~ I am so sorry for your loss. I was a dedicated rider for years but I gave it up when I realized how many good people are mowed down by careless drivers. I had a feeling, perhaps a premonition, that that could happen to me. I'm glad I followed my heart and went back to more serious songwriting and performing. All the best.

Sorry for your loss.

A great loss. my condolences.

I am a writer and a cyclist. Yes, it's important to write and yes, my books will have more impact than a bike ride here or there. But I can't stress this enough: your time will come when it will come, and we can't live as though there is no tomorrow. So ride your bike, and write your heart out, and do all the things you need to do. We all love your writing, Derek. We're sorry that your friend is gone; the same car-on-bicycle accident happened to a friend of mine. Don't let that stop you from riding and going outdoors! Life is a balance, my friend.

Peace be with you and Milt's friends and family, Derek, I'm grateful you have known friendship worth missing, as terrible as the loss feels.

So sorry for your tragic loss of such a dear friend. Thanks for sharing your tribute, your lessons learned, and your commitment to making a difference. Very powerful! Blessings.

I'm sorry, my condolences Derek. What you say is true.

Derek, I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your dear friend! I know personally how unbearable that grief can be, especially if you allow yourself to think of what you DIDN'T do or say before it was "too late." Be comforted by thinking of all the good you were in his life and the great moments you shared. My heart goes out to you and all those who loved him.

So true Derek, it is like in our hearts we know we should be serving others with what we do. But we waste time on personal gratification. Even in our thoughts we need to encourage others. Thank you for all your insightful reminders. My condolences for your friends passing.

Condolences on the loss of your friend, Derek.

That's a good point you make. It's just healthy and positive to be doing something productive with one's time. I couldn't live my life any other way. That's kinda why I'm never really happy existing in a largely capitalist world — I don't fit; I've always said I'm more altruist than capitalist. I struggle to do *anything* that doesn't seem productive, so I'll never be packing bags at or anything like that. I'd go postal!

Actually, with your mention of writing, you've put the thought strongly in my head that I really should get the vaguely Bipolar Disorder-themed screenplay I've been writing properly finished. If for no other reason than 'tomorrow', I could be run down by a car (possibly while riding a bike, if I rode one) and then it'd never be finished!

Sorry to hear about your friend.....I do miss your posts and emails, you have enhanced our lives with your creations, companies and posts and we are all forever in your debt. You and Godin are the only two people I really listen to and trust online.

Derek - Please accept my condolences on the passing of your friend. You are so correct, do what makes you happy and hopefully it helps others too. Life can be cut to short and some times it gives us a second chance, I had cancer at 35, now I'm 50 and in the best shape since high school - and I try not to wast a day of life on life's crap. It's always good to here from you.

I just spent 1 hour filing my emails. I mean, who cares if they are in folders or not? What you say is so true. Thanks for the reality check. I'm gonna go take my dog for a walk in the forest. Hope I don't get eaten by a Tiger… :) RIP Milton. Hope you can read Derek's next book wherever you are.

Hey Derek....Sorry for your loss......... I've never commented before, but have been reading your nuggets of wisdom for many years.. Thanks for that!

My condolences for the loss of your good friend. Life is fickle and fleeting; change is the only constant and it is inconstant. Yet we remember. RIP Milt.

Be strong Derek and live life to the fullest because no one is promised tomorrow.

Here's a virtual, tear-filled hug. I'm saddened and sobered by your loss.

You probably remember Neil Young singing as a member of the Buffalo Springfield, "I am a child, I'll last a while..." I'm deeply sorry you'll miss the pleasure of Milt's smile.

The value of what you've generously shared in this tragic post, connects me to your goodness, to the precious, brief moment called life. This is the most impactful post I've read.

Blessings and peace.

Thank you for the lesson Milt. Thank you for sharing the lesson Derek.

Derek,
Mulholland Hwy. is a winding Santa Monica Mtn. road that traverses between the "valley" and the west LA "coast" as a fellow cyclist I have ridden, with a few close calls, for many years.

My prayers for you and Milt's family and friends.

Sorry for your loss, Derek. God rest Milt's soul.

I am sorry to hear Derek, and may Milt RIP. I look forward to reading your wonderful thoughts again.

Sorry for your lost we must be strong and look to The Lord to get u through. Peace & love Bobby Taylor & Magnetic Touch.

So sorry to hear about your friend. RIP Milt.

I was also thinking why have to stop writing awesome content.

Very sorry to hear about your loss Derek :( Loss is life's ultimate compass for those who are willing to let the pain in move in a positive direction. Not very useful for people that live in denial of the pain\loss.

Derek,
I'm certain that in some way Milt was with you when you wrote this note. Don't stop talking to him. He'll always be with you. I, too, just came out of mourning a very close friend. It literally took 2 years to feel normal again. But, during that time I made it a top priority to be with my peeps, doing what they do, when they do it. It made many of those bonds much stronger. But, I'm back now and ready to do the hard stuff, albeit with one eye on my peeps. Now I'm crying. It feels good. Love & Peace to you and yours.

Thank you Sir Sivers and Sir Milton Olin for this beautiful reminder. Reminding ourself daily and many moments throughout the day that we and every sentient being are of an impermant appearance has completely changed and thoroughly transformed my thoughts, words and actions. Thinking, saying or doing anything that is an expression which is other than loving kindness and compassion, with the motivation of benefitting all beings at any moment is a waste of this precious human life. It's difficult to apply in a constant and stable way; but with firm conviction free from wallowing around in guilty thoughts of failure when we do find ourselves wasting any beautiful moment of opportunity, improvement flourishes. I offer this praise and gratitude for Milton, for you and for the benefit of all. May he, Milton always have happiness and the causes of happiness, be free from all suffering and the causes of suffering, abide in the great everlasting joy beyond all suffering and attain the pure equanimity beyond all near and far that he may continue to benefit all as his life and now his continuance has, is and will. May these wishes be also made true for you Derek and all who reads them and may any virtue or merit no matter how small or great from such be now and always dedicated to the benefit of all.
Peace, b

Derek,
Super sorry to hear of the tragedy.

It is staggering to realize how much time we waste on things of little importance.

I will say, though, you have done so much to inspire others with your writing. You cause people to rise up and face their challenges. You are insightful, fresh, encouraging and fun.

I look forward to your writing!

Get back to it. You have loads of disciples!

Derek - condolences - but be at peace - one thing I teach my students is we are always right where we are supposed to be - we can't bear the weight of the world if we are going to move forward - but VERY glad to have you be writing again! peace - f

thanks for sharing Derek

So sorry for your loss. Especially a what appears to be, such an untimely loss. I love Milt's choice of music. Music I have listened to since I was young.
I heard a talk on kabbalah and the speaker said that they believe the soul chose to come into the world and have that particular experience. Whether for a short time or long, to work thru something in this life time. It has helped me in the past and it came to me to share it. I hope Milt did and you find solace in the gift of your friendship, his kindness and smile living on in your heart, mind and memories.
Thru your post, I like Milt, even tho we did not meet. Maybe next time.
Be well and be gentle with yourself.
Hugs.
Terry

Hi Derek so sorry for your loss. Life is short and it is important to try to have as much joy each day as possible since you really never know when it is your time to leave. Glad writing is such a great source of joy for you
Hadassah

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us Derek. There is a trio of writers I look forward to reading and your offerings are included. You have provided me significant inspiration to get on with what I know to be important in my being. Sorry about the loss of your friend. We can only celebrate that we got to spend that portion of our time together. Thank you for sharing, this took a great deal of courage.

My condolences, Derek. But please, DO write more!

Dear Derek,
My condolences on your loss.

I am actually sharing your loss. Lost my cousin 2 days ago. She was a great spirit. She spent the best part of her life living up to what people expected of her. Now she's no more to live her own version of our life.

But through it all I am thankful she was part of my life, and that I had the privilege of being part of hers.

They never die, who live continually in our hearts.

Rgds,

When my soul mate Lloyd passed away, I found the greatest comfort in sharing the grief, and the memories with people who also knew the agony of sudden unexpected loss. Thank you for telling us of this tragedy in your life. I am sorry about the loss of your friend, and am thinking of you.

I totally agree with you Derek. For me writing country/gospel songs that the Holy Spirit puts on my heart are what is important. My prayer is that God will provide a way for me to record all of the ones I have written in the meantime. Thank you for your desire to make a difference.

Sorry to read about your friend's death. May his soul rest in peace. :/

Your posts are always insightful and interesting! looking forward to the future.

Sorry for your loss Derek.
We are becoming more solitary and basing our lives around our computers/online activities. People place importance now on checking their phones and messages rather than being interactive with others. I notice this at work and when I am out
I enjoy reading your articles,
regards Sharon

I'm so sorry. Sending Love

Im so sorry to hear about your friend and its nice to hear that you are going to write again. Ive missed your thoughts

My condolences Derek. Very sorry to hear about your friend.

I'm thrilled though to hear you'll be writing again. Your mailing list is one of the very few I subscribe to. I always look forward to reading news I receive from you.

Derek, life is short, man. Do what matters. Sorry for your loss. I always like hearing what you have to say. All shall be most well.

-Drew

Really thought provoking e-mail Derek - Yes you are right, so much we could do - important things - but much easier to do the silly things and tell yourself it's important. You answered your own and a lot of our questions to ourselves.....did I actually do anything today...or did I just bugger about? Well Milt....you answered all our questions. God Bless and God rest.

Sorry about your loss. Using it for motivation to write is a blessing.

Hi Derek:-) I am so sad to hear about your friend. It's quite a jolt to the mind and heart, I know. We just lost our beautiful dog to a busy driver...I cried all weekend. Loveing is the greatest joy, the deepest pain. Sharing our gifts creates joy ! Thank you for your blogs Always appreciative:-) A friend always:-)
Rachel

Hi Derek,
I'm glad you're going to start writing again. I'm going to start writing songs again and maybe even blogging. I have this beautiful Martin guitar that my husband bought me for a gift and I get too busy with LIFE and doing things that aren't going to have any eternal value. I am going to finish the song I started. I work with Special Ed. students as a one on one Aide in a local public school. My job can be stressful at times but I LOVE it. I need to do things that relax me and set my mind at ease. I have always loved writing. You have inspired me to press on to what is important. I enjoy reading your blog. It motivates me, puts a smile on my face, makes me think and contemplate more about my life, moves me, prods me, challenges me. It gets me thinking about my life and my experiences. My son tells me I should start a blog but I always say I'm too busy. I LOVE to write. It frees me and makes me feel that what I have to say may touch someone.

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend Milton Olin and how quickly he was gone. It's very sad when we lose someone close to us. It's the sudden, quick shocking deaths that I have experienced in my life that are really painful. It's hard to accept that one day someone is here and then the next day you may never see them again. I have learned to treasure each moment I have with those I love and to live with no regrets.

My Ode of stories of honor and memories to loved ones I miss and are gone:

I never got the privilege to meet my Paternal grandfather or grandmother. They both died before I was born. My mother told me that my grandfather John Mulvihill had a pub in Chicago in the 1930's and he was threatened by Al Capone and his gang to pay for protection money. My grandpa said, "No, I have two brothers who are police officers so you can't bully me! Al Capone and his gang came by 2 weeks later and killed my grandpa mafia style. They left my grandma with 4 kids and she had to sell the family business. Her sons were too young to take over the pub. My dad John Jr. lost his father when he was only 11 years old POOF! He was gone!

On Friday, August 17, 1962, when I was only 3 years old I met President John F. Kennedy. My family and I were in Yosemite on vacation. There was a crowd of 20,000 people in the park waiting to catch a glimpse of the President. My brother Mark talked to a security guard asking him where the President would walk through to greet the crowd and if our family of 8 children and my parents could stand in that place. The guard let us stand in the hallway and President John F. Kennedy walked up to me sitting on my brother Michael's shoulders. Kennedy walked in with all the reporters taking pictures with the hand held flash cameras. I thought he was a movie star because I was only 3 years old and didn't know what a President was. He came up to me out of the crowd and smiled at me, patted my hand and said, "You look just like my daughter Caroline." Kennedy went down the line and shook hands with every member of my family including my mom and dad. I remember it just like it was yesterday. What a moment to experience! I got my name in the San Francisco Examiner and my parents were interviewed. My father made copies for everyone he knew and it was an amazing meeting that I will never forget. My mom asked me what I thought of meeting the President of the United States and my cynical reply was, "He didn't even shake my hand." I guess at the tender age of 3, I wanted to feel important and shake his hand and quite frankly had missed the point. It will forever be etched in my memory! Kennedy died a few years later and everyone cried that day, including a little 5 year old girl whom Kennedy had made such an impression on. My mom told me that when he died and they played the drums and I saw the procession, I cried and said, "That bad man killed my friend." POOF, he was gone!
It just made everyone cry more when I realized what had happened...
We just recently celebrated the 50 year anniversary of Kennedy's death.

My best friend Christina in 2nd grade died of leukemia. She was at school one day and the next day, she was gone. POOF! I still remember laughing with Christina and doing our homework together and playing with our dolls together.

I was in the pool swimming when my best friend found out her father had been killed in a plane accident. Her mom came to tell Linda, my friend, that I needed to go home. I could tell by the look on her mom's face that someone had died. Her mother was 8 1/2 months pregnant with 6 kids....POOF...he was gone! They had to pick up the pieces of their brokenness and loss. My friend Linda's mom never remarried and raised her family on her own.

My friend in high school, Linda Hayashi committed suicide. Life just got too hard for her. She had only been married for one year. She tried to talk to her husband and they were having marital problems. He just turned over and went to sleep. Linda went into the garage the next morning, turned on the car and POOF! She was gone.

My brother Mike died when he was only 31 years old in 1978. I was in college at the time and had spent some wonderful moments with him. He had Multiple Sclerosis and was supposed to live for like 15-20 more years. So, my mom got the call and POOF....he was gone! He had just been transferred to a rehabilitation hospital and was in remission and doing fantastic. It was such a shock to our family. I remember hearing the phone ring at around 6am and all I could hear was my mom's gut wrenching cry. I don't know how I knew but I knew :( Michael my brother was dead. Husband, a father of two young children. He was my friend and such a wonderful person. I miss him!

In 1992, four people who were close to me died within months of each other. It was a very difficult year. My brother in law, Jim Mueller, Aug. 1992 (back surgery gone wrong-had a wife and 5 year old son)....Smilie Dankowski, my cousin, Sept. 1992 (heart attack while mowing the lawn), my father John Mulvihill, Oct. 3, 1992 (cancer), and an 11 year old boy that was my son's best friend,
Jerry Saddi, Nov. 18, 1992 (died of asthma)
I miss them all very much and especially my Dad :(
POOF, they were gone suddenly.

Bob Erice, my brother in law, May 1993 (heroin overdose) POOF, he was gone!

Dear sweet Aunt Evelyn from Kentucky who still had an accent, Aug. 11, 2000 (liver cancer) POOF, she was gone!

My beautiful sister Maureen Mulvihill, July 7, 2006 (liver toxicity- due to medication she took) POOF, she was gone! A beautiful artist, mom, sister.

My mom, Dorothy Mulvihill, May 2, 2012, (heart condition/old age)
An amazing woman who loved God and loved her family. Had 10 children and always had room for many neighborhood children at the family table, open arms of love and always ready to listen, I miss talking to her the most and seeing her beautiful face.

They left this earth too early. These lives will forever live on in our hearts. They are so much a part of us. We will never forget them. I keep my record of these losses of loved ones in my Bible so I won't forget and will always have the memories that I treasure. I know that I have had a lot of loss in my life but it will not get me down. I have no regrets. I spent a LOT of time with each one while they were alive and I gave of myself to them as they gave me life back when they were here. There were heartaches but there was plenty of laughter, sharing, caring. I was able to be there when both my father and mother died and went on to their new home only to be separated by time and space. Death to me was a part of life and it was a very memorable moment to be with someone who was dying. My father died with all of his children and most of his grandchildren around him. My sister called us to be near my dad when he was dying. My mom knew that the time was near. She said, "John, do you see them? Do you see my mom and dad? Do you see your mom and dad? Do you see Michael (their son, my brother who had died) My mom said, "Say Hi to them for me." My mother and father had been married almost 50 years. My father was at the pearly gate or whatever you want to call the place between earth heaven. In Ephesians 5:31, it talks about a man leaving his father and mother and cleaving to his wife, and that the two will become one flesh. My mom felt the pain of the two who had been one flesh for 50 years. It was a ripping away in death that my father was leaving to go to his eternal home. My mom was with my father in spirit and present at the pearly gate but she couldn't go with him. My father was in a coma and he looked up and then there was a flash of light and he was gone! I believe they are in heaven now completely out of pain and suffering. I had the privilege to be able to sing at my father's memorial service. I was able to sing with the strength that he had taught me to carry in my heart. When my mother died at the age of 87 years old, she had a legacy to leave with 10 children (7 girls, 3 boys), 23 grandchildren, 10 great grandchildren, and 5 great, great grandchildren.
Thanks for letting me share my heart with you. :)
Thanks for writing again Derek....I'm writing again!
Blessings- Jeannie Gilliam

Hey Derek .. so sorry for your loss .. hugs!

I love your writing. You are a special guiding star with a unique edge of your own.
I have a ton of subs in my inbox but always read yours.
I find not only are you expansive, successful and informed
Theres just something so authentic, true and genuine in your writing that I love.
You also speak to musical peeps like me.

Be gentle on yourself through these next few days of sadness .. blessings that he didnt suffer too much ...

Write me!!! Meaghan Morningstar www.meaghanmorningstar.com xxxx

Hi Derek, all the best to you and your family! I just sat down with my iPad and came across this article while I'm waiting for my computer to upload another video I did today. Actually, I think I did about 7 videos on my samsung. My daughter was around, so I asked her when she was going to go to work...(already). I was thinking at that moment how I don't like distractions. Then my friend George stopped by right after she left. Another distraction. Phone ringing, phone texting....distractions! Thank you for sharing this, it means to me that sometimes we have to make time for the distractions. Or, all the time. So, maybe by the time I load the next video, I will call it "Another Opportunity".

I may not have responded to a lot of the gifted lessons you gave us through the years but a lot of them have changed my thoughts in many ways. Thank you Derek for those articles and for CD Baby.

Please do, I've always enjoyed your writing. It's often very timely, too , as in this case my mom'a 2 biopsies both came back very large and malignant just this morning. We all take so much for granted and priorities shift on a dime.
Thank you for writing again. Charylu Roberts

OH MAN. What an event Derek. Man. I'm sorry for the pain of your loss, but I've no doubt that feeling it is best. I'm super glad your friend lived and downloaded and died doing what I assume he loved. RIP Milton.

Hi Derek
I am sorry for your friend .The important is that your share your feelings.The best way to express is writing .Keep in touch

Regards

Hi Derek
I am sorry for your friend .The important is that your share your feelings.The best way to express is writing .Keep in touch

Regards

Sorry for the loss of your friend, Derek. I know where that's at. Glad Milt inspired you to write again. Your ideas are always helpful.

Derek,
I am sorry to hear about your friend and can understand both your shock and feelings of loss. In reality few of us know when our time will come and it is our responsibility to enjoy each moment and give out as much love and compassion as possible because there may not be a second chance. I believe that Milton was doing something he really enjoyed by downloading the music and it was a nostalgic moment for him.
I hope that his passing was merciful and painless.
Thank you for writing this note.
Sincerely, Marty

Derek, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts. I've lost people too. Isn't it frustrating, the things you have no control over? Hopefully, you helped him with his life, and he yours. In the larger scheme, all I can tell you is that your words helped me on CDB...even more than the service itself. And yes, your words on this blog post-CDB. So your writing DOES help people...guaranteed. Hang in there, dude.

Yes, writing and contributing leaves our legacy to the human race for centuries to come. There are few contributions that we can make in this world that can match in impact on the human spirit. Intellectual property is only as valuable, however, as the character of mind that creates it. To have a great mind is the goal of living. Our writing reveals our innermost thoughts and the uniqueness of our journeys - the depth of our reasoning, our ability to visualize through words, our education, our moral fiber and our faith.

I am truly sorry for your loss. Friends mean everything, especially when you are traveling far from home and abroad. He is safe and happy and loved.

I've been thinking the same thing for the last few days... I really want to do more writing, but I keep getting caught up in day to day living.
And before you know it you're living out of balance with the priorities you set for your life.
Thanks Derek. I'm going to start writing again too.

thank you that you're back! sorry for the reason.

Sorry to hear about your friend Derek. Very sorry. I printed almost all of your writings and re-read them every 2-3 months for inspiration and motivation. I always feel better after I read them again. As an aspiring songwriter/recording artist ,it's too easy to get de-motivated. Your writings get me back on track. Thank you.(especially for creating CDBABY!)

That is sad and hard to shake,my prayers are with you Derek.

so sorry for your loss. it's sad that sometimes things like this happen, makes you really think deep about your time left in the world and what we will do with it. God bless Milt.

So sorry Derek... praying for you and all others who were close to Milt

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Thank you for writing again about the stuff that matters. Here's hoping that it comforts you as it has so many others.

All so very true Derek. It is important to treasure those things that are important to us. Take nothing for granted. Enjoy life where you are, nothing is promised beyond that.

Deep condolences to you, Derek and your friend's family. Peace is yours.

Years ago you wrote about how you are happy that you know when you have enough. That some rich people just don't know when they have enough. I am going to change the music game for artists in a positive way like you did very soon and I promised myself like Derek, I will know when I have enough.

Love you brother

Humbly
Chad

Thanks for sharing your personal thoughts. Your words bring hope and comfort to many. I hope the words of others do the same for you as well.

Derek, I think one of your gifts is "timing" (among the other myriad of talents that you exude)...
I've been paying particularly close attention to "the signs" lately and, as I sat down to read your latest post, I'm hit between the eyes with the thought of "making every minute count".
For the past two weeks I have been visiting my 90 year old grandfather in a nursing home and helping my 96 year old grandmother cope with missing her husband and facing death.
Today is the last day of my visit with my grandparents before I travel back to my home. Most likely, this evening is the last time I will see my grandfather alive. After 5 hours of sitting with my grandpa and chatting about what he could remember, we gazed into each other's eyes for one last, long look before it was time for me to take my grandma home. It was one of the most bittersweet moments of my life as I told him I loved him with my eyes and reassured him with my voice and one last kiss...
As I slowly drove past the double doors and saw him waving goodbye, I was completely assured that these last 5 hours have been the most wonderful and productive times of my life.

Thank you, Derek, for reiterating that to me. Please accept my deepest sympathies for you, Milt and his family. You all are in my prayers...and I am happy to know that Milt offered you the gift of writing again. With love...

Sorry for your loss Derek, thanks for picking up the torch again. Missed your words!

Derek. Sorry to hear about your loss. Keep writing!

Sorry Derek!

Good for you to make something positive out of a tragedy like! Carry on!!!

So sorry you lost your friend.

Write on brother!! You've always followed your heart and instincts...don't stop now!
The way you've lived your life and what you've accomplished is inspiration for so many!
Cheers, Ron Iacopucci

Sorry to hear that Derek.
Your writing does help a lot of people I am sure.
Happy you are starting to write again.

RIP Milton Olin

Dear Derek, Hugs to you and so sorry for your loss. I know your pain too well. Yes, I support and encourage your efforts to write. I lost my best friend to an auto accident years ago and it is still a great loss in my life. I recently wrote a song about it and I still try to write but you are correct as I could be writing more often instead of time spent doing things that are wasteful in comparison. Thank you for posting a difficult but important reminder. I'm so sorry. Love to you.

Life fades, time is short and Jesus Christ alone conquers death.

Yo Derek I love reading your articles bro! Your very intelligent and that's how society prospers! It has been a pleasure seeing you grow from a small time guy I met in Chicago at a local coffee shop to trying to help other musicians with online music sales and distribution thru cdbaby! If it wasn't for u inviting this small time nobody from iowa to network in Chicago I wouldn't have fans all across the world man! You have been very influential in my life and I thank god for you!

I`m sorry about your friend. I tend to think that he might be continuing his journey somewhere else. (ala Cloud Atlas) Regardless it is a tragedy. I wish you well.

It's good to have you back. On January I'll start my own blog, and for sure I will mention this post. Carry on ;)

Hi Derek
Sorry for Your Loss
I have been thinking the same things this week
I agree totally
Blessings
Carey

:(

Derek I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. It will certainly do him honor if his passing on serves to rekindle your inspiration for writing, as you are indeed a gifted writer. Our time in this world is so fleeting, yet I have 100% Faith in our Creator to lead us to realms beyond our wildest imagination. The Great Eternal Adventure awaits. Onward!

Very well said indeed.

Came to this essay thru a re-printed tweet on tompeters.com. thanks - and my condolences on the loss of your friend.

Sorry about the loss of your friend.
Thanks for your thoughts on "it's so easy to waste time..."
I put it on my computer desktop.
One of my favorite sayings is; "Change is easy.
The problem is, not changing is even easier".
Good luck with your grief.

I'm sorry about your friend.

From every bad situation there is something good, we just need to take it out of the bad situation, I truly believe in this (I have a Yin Yang tattoo to remember this). If the good thing from yours friend death is you writing again, so be it.

Best wishes from Brazil

Losing a good friend sucks. Please accept my condolences. And keep his memory alive. It's obviously a good one for you.

And it's nice to see you back writing. I still have your RSS in my Digg Reader. What have you been up to these last 6-ish months?

Even in this sad time, try to enjoy the holidays and have a Happy Festivus (or whatever it is that you might celebrate).

Jay
Wood Egg ☺ — Derek

Derek - I enjoy your posts, and they often lead me to trying something new - e.g. Anki - and telling others too (my IT friend has also started using Anki for his MS Server exams - and I often talk to students I assess for Dyslexia about it too).

Sorry for your loss - but thank you also for your persistence/presence :)

Derek, I'm so sorry for the tragic loss of your friend. My heart goes out to you and his family.

Derek I am truly sorry for your loss. I also decided about a year ago that I filled my life with so much that didn't matter and have tried to reverse that trend. I have found that I am happier and have more peace. We are not promised a set amount of time and it becomes less each day. Do what you enjoy. I am truly looking forward to your future writings.

So sorry for the lost of a dear friend.

A big hug from Norway <3

So sorry for your loss. We never know when our time will come but it's inevitable. Life is too short to be unhappy. Do those things that make you happy and when the end comes you'll have no regrets.

Thank you Derek. Sad about your friend-inspired by your words, once again. Just watched Groundhog Day. The Universe is speaking. Thank you Milton.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your close friend Derek. May God comfort you in this difficult time.

I am sorry for the loss of your friend Milton. I hope you will find comfort in your grief. I am confident you will continue to honor him as you said you will. I believe that you will end up with a larger, if more tender, heart.

By all means, write. I will confess that I don't read much of your writing, I have a hard time getting into my town's local news rag - a task I consider worthwhile if I am to be a member of my community - much less the grand musings of some creative genius who I have no personal connection with. WHY DID I READ THIS MISSIVE? I was most probably caught by the subject of WRITING and that you might be at a crossroads; you stated a decision. Lastly, you addressed to someone by name, it became personal. Years ago when I aspired to write I shared with a friend how I appreciated anonymous, objective writing that dealt with information rather than personal inflection. He responded with his own experience which was that he had been taught that subjective writing was the most effective. People like stories, we always have. I learned so much in that single encounter.
best wishes...

I am so sorry to hear about your friend Derek.
Thank you for the reminder of the importance of using our time consciously.
Kirby

Derek,
I got to know Milt in the last couple of years through dealings with one of his clients, LyricFind. I can't think of anyone with whom I hit it off with so quickly and I share your thoughts and feelings. Always made a point to have dinner with him (at a very expensive restaurant) when I was in LA - last time was in October and it was always a rewarding experience. We corresponded regularly, most recently last week. So much in common and such a good friend. And it is another stark reminder that time is precious.

Deepest sympathies to you, Milt's family and friends. I understand your moment of clarity; I got mine in a hospital bed 3 years ago, not sure if I'd see my babies grow up. But if we're lucky, somehow life moves on, we do get stronge; and sometimes we forget our fragility until someone else reminds us of it. Thank you for sharing what's in your heart and for being so candid. Yes,Derek, continue to write. In sadness and joy, you always manage to inspire, and that is your gift to those who "listen". In the meantime, it's ok to enjoy the "little gifts" daily life on this earth offers. They too have meaning and have the capacity to heal. Hugs.

Derek,
My day was moving right along as I went about doing what is now easily determined as non-essential tasks when I ventured upon your latest writing with excitement and reservedness. Never have I known who you describe yet how deeply I was affected by your thoughts of some one so dear to you. Thank you. GOD Bless Milton and may your holiday season be more blessed than you hope.

My goodness, Merry CHRISTmas and GOD Bless,

Curtis

Sorry for your loss Derek. My sister was diagnosed with a brain tumor and passed away on Christmas day two years ago. We live such brief lives and time is the ultimate limited resource. I constantly remind myself to spend it doing the things that matter most to me. Thanks for sharing and the reminder.

I am so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed getting your blogs in the past and am looking forward to a renewed effort on your part. I promise to read them. :+)

So sorry for your loss Derek, may Milt forever RIP and blessings always be with his loved ones. Please do write Derek, you are an inspiration to many, keep it going and yes Milt is smiling down upon you...

Alex

R.I.P. Milton Olin.

Derek- I look forward to receiving more of your writings and thoughts.

D, so sorry for your experience of having your close friend ripped away from you. I've been in a "grief/loss process" for many years, esp. this last one, paralleling my wife's loss of her Mother. Ton o'grief with a side of paper avalanche. ;) almost thru, miss your energy, sad too about CDB's current state, now just my problem, if I were motivated. But alas, too much sun. Blessings, joy, hope and healing to you, my friend. scott aka songmon, songmon dot com <3

So sorry for your loss. Thank you for writing this timely message--I had a recent loss as well and reading this was very helpful for perspective. Let's just say-I'm not staying late at work tonight! I look forward to reading more from you soon.

Sorry about your friend, Derek. True friends are special. I appreciate your wisdom on using time wisely and creating a legacies. I hope you keep writing.

My heart goes out to you. Sometimes it takes death of a friend to help us get our focus. You mention your words living forever, and indeed I have been touched by your words and passion. But even our best endeavors in this life will one day fade away. But there is eternity. God sent His Son Jesus as the living Word of God. Our Creator died in our place paying fully for all our wrongs with His blood on the cross. On the 3rd day He arose to life again. Anyone who believes in Jesus Christ will gain Eternal Life with the Author of Life and Love incarnate. He became sin in our place so we could have His rightousness simply by believing in Him. So I know I can have a lasting legacy in heaven, a home that never falls apart, riches that never get stolen, perfection. God has a call on your life, He wants to give you this prize package free of charge, so you have more than this life to look forward to. It is all paid for. All you have to do is believe in Jesus, God in the flesh. He loves you enough to die for you, to do whatever it takes for you to know Him, in such an intimately personal way that His Holy Spirit infuses your being and you come closer to love, life, and perfection, to the best Friend. It has been on my heart for some time to see you get this gift, because your words and their heart have touched my heart, and though a stranger you are loved. I hope in this season of renewed writing you take a tour through the Bible and read the Eternal Word. Love u lots & appreciate u tons!

My condolences, Derek.

So sorry. This could be any of us

I'm so sorry Derek, i know how you feel. Just try to remember him and what you've shared together. I've lost a friend of mine this August, hit by a car while he was on holiday with his fiancée.
It will get a little better as the time goes by. Be strong.

Laura

Your article is absolutely beautiful. Sorry for the loss of your friend.

Very sorry about your friend! At the same time, what a slap on the face... and it hurts! I needed to hear this and need to put the PS3 aside and get on with some more important things I've been putting aside. Thanks Derek!

Thank you Milton & may your rest peacefully; and thank you Derek.

Derek, you are definitely one of my mentors, and though I can't recall how I found you......I'm sure glad that I did.
Happy Holidays to you and yours~
Keep writing.

Regarding your operating systems "schtuff!"......another of my mentors, Tom Peters, talks about controlling what we think about. (after all, that IS what makes us different from the other animals~)

He said if you keep this mantra handy, it will help you resolve any conflicts.
"I must do the most productive thing possible at all times." ~ or something very damn close!

And sometimes, as some of the other commenters (sp?) shared, that may be to lay on the couch with a remote and VEG out for an hour.

Dear Derek - I've 'followed' you, your TED Talk and your musings for a number of years now. I'll be 75 in February and have grocked est (1972), Lifespring (1995, Busting Loose (did workshops for last 6 years), Science of Mind, and like that. From that standpoint and background, I have always beyond enjoyed what you have to share of your life experiences. Grocking would not be inaccurate. Thanks for throwing your pen and paper back into the active ring. Best, Tom

Thank you for sharing this Mr. Sivers. I cried when I first read it.

Thank you also for sharing Milton's love, energy, and compassion through your writing.

Milt was a beautiful guy and if I listened to him more I would have saved myself some grief. I'll see him on the other side.

Condolences on your loss, DS. My recent cancer-drama gave me the same lesson; I still struggle to keep it daily.
Feliz Navidad, dude!
Jay

My good friend Howard Berman called me about a year ago, asking if I could do Plumbing /Electric for one of his best friends Milt.
Whenever Howard is in town[ L.A, CA.] He would also sayI'm having dinner at the ''Olins''. Well I have been there numerous times.
My last job was installing a $2000.00 ceiling fan.Also taking down a lamp and installing a new one in the dining room, Milt made sure the lamp was in the exact position.
He was very kind as was his wife Louise .
His garage was filled with bicycles.
So sad, what a great life and family he had, it seemed like he just grabbed life the horns and rode it.
He left us way too soon.
My prayers to his family,love, Jeff

I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss Derek.
Thomas

Sorry to hear about your friend. I'm sure he was happy doing what he loved in the last moment. and that's something..
Charles

Derek, I stumbled on your words this morning and it put a smile on my face. My sister and nephews will be so pleased to know how much Milt inspired you. Do keep up your writing and feel free to share your thoughts with our family. All the very best to you.

Sorry to hear about your friend, I suspect he'd be happy knowing you've been able to turn this tragic event into something positive for yourself and others - I've been locked in a more fierce battle than usual against resistance the last few weeks and reading this has inspired me to focus on the important stuff.

Thanks for sharing this, Derek, and reminding us what is truly precious in life.

Thank you for sharing this. And I look forward to reading more of your posts!

You're right Derek. Your writing is so good that writing might be the most valuable thing you do. I also like how short you keep things these days. It makes them so easy to read even if time seems short.

I want to say one thing to you even if you don't believe or understand at this time. The truth is, man is idea, not matter, and is eternal and eternally present.

No tears. :)

Brian

Is a season of giving. You gave insight into your heart for your friend. Well done and in some manner a positive counter balance to the negative event. Peace.

Dear Derek, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your close friend. I also had one of the dearest people in my life die after being hit by a car while he was taking a walk from the Hudson River into the town of Tivoli N.Y. It really is so important to realize that we just never know what life will bring and we truly have to take a few moments every day to charish everyone in our lives, including ourselves. How much we love others is always felt by them. They take it with them. I'm sure your friend Milton knows and deeply appreciates your love for him. My very best to you. K.O.

I'm so sorry Derek. That was beautifully written. Write more. Rivcona

So sorry to hear of your loss Derek. It is heart-wrenching when it is someone who is the picture perfect look of good health. I lost my youngest brother last year he should have been celebrating his 50th birthday this year but we never got to the party. I do look forward to your writing again as it has also been a great source of inspiration for me as well.

my condolences to you regarding your friend Milt. It's positive is that it's kicked you into creating, using your unique imagination to share marvelous ideas with others
Peace

This reminds me that I used to dedicate little things I do everyday to someone I love, just so to make even the mundane meaningful and worthwhile. Your writing is certainly beyond mundane. You have so much wisdom to share. Milton will be so honoured, Derek. May his soul rest in peace.

I experienced a same situation a few years ago. You do have to put everything you do in life in perspective and realize what is important and what is not. I am sorry for your loss. It's important to celebrate his life.

thank you to Milt for inspiring you to write again - his legacy has inspired you to do something truly great - and that will help others.

so sorry for your loss, and so inspired by your response to it.

Sending love your way.

So glad to hear you still be writing more. You are one of my favorite voices on the internet. Your heartfelt writing and philosophy so often strikes a chord with me.

As I'm sure many will say, "this really hit home for me." In the last few years I've beeen spending time working on EQ and on my myriad of relationships. This week I spent time in the ER with my husband. He sees only the limit of time not the unlimited possibilities. You're thoughts were helpful in unveiling our potential personal impact to the future. See farther is my motto.
Thanks,
Denise

Sorry to hear that Derek.

I really want to thank you for your advice to do the thing that scares you: I suffer from paralysis by analysis, but have taken comfort from your advice and your attitude to life. I've started doing, so for me your writing is a choice that's worth making. Your attitude to life makes a difference to a lot of people.

Life is uncertainty. The more we realise this and become comfortable with it, the better we will live it.

Right on Derek.....Write On!!! My Wife Ingrid of about 40yrs.....the Other Half of my Heart died very recently....after a terrifyingly quick and agonizingly slow struggle with cancer.....leaving me petrified and raging, to pick up the melting fragments of our life together trying to stuff them into this aching bottomless void.............

Now, nearly 4 months later....after quixotically battling the Windmills of the Health Industry.....we are not insured.....I have just unpacked my guitar for the first time , "with a Little Help from my Friends" all around the Globe, and thanks to social Media's ability to re-connect us to those who are important, I feel the time has finally come......to do as you say Derek.....stop wasting time and concentrate on the only purpose we truly have here.......JOY. giving....receiving...and participating in it......reveling and bathing in it once again. Write On Derek.

My deepest sympathies.

I read this and thought that this could be inspiration for a song when I realized I'd already written it. I am sorry for your loss.

So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Life is precious. Thank you for the reminder.

Matt

It is also confirmation how small the world is in some respect, to know that Milt Olin was one of your best friends. indeed, sorry to hear. It is without a doubt that 'we' need to make the best of this 'time' we have here and not to waste it by just being okay and staying above water. Be the best we can be and live life awesomely. Namaste.

I am glad you are writing again. That is the true viridity of spirit - which is what we need more of. My condolence at the loss of your friend who I did not know but who had great taste in music, I hear.

It took me several days to finally read this & I am pretty sure reading this "matters" to me - so the irony of me putting off reading this helps drive the point further home (for me)!
I'm sad for your loss and thank you for sharing what you gained from the experience - thereby I have gained some enlightenment from it too.
A single father with two teenage daughters sincerely values what IS important to me / us.

Sorry to read about the tragic news. Sometimes it takes sudden and devastating news to make us reassess what's important in life.

To me, the question is, how can we honor our "loved ones"? Sure we remember, but how will you HONOR their life and legacy?
While they're still here, go see them, call them, write to them, think about them, and send them your love.

Just read your post. So sorry to hear this. It is so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routine -- until something like this happens. Death is something that everyone of us will face -- maybe tomorrow, maybe next week, maybe in 30 years. I wonder how many people would live their life differently if they knew of the exact day and time this would happen to them. It sounds like your friend was doing something he loved to do --- I'm so glad to hear that. When it comes down to it, isn't that what we all want? It is a lesson for each one of us. And it sounds like you are committed to doing the things you value as most important. For those of us left behind, it is an awesome way to honor those closest to us who have passed on. Even though I know it is indescribably painful, I'm so glad you have found inspiration through him. I am sure he is honored, just as I know you were honored to have him in your life.

Sorry for your loss, Derek. I agree with you about the importance of writing. And yet, why do we tend to sabotage ourselves by doing everything else but write? I've had a song percolating in my head for a few days now and yet, I accept invitations to meet friends, go to the bar, etc. Everything except write/record this song that is all but finished in my head. It's a strange thing because I know I'll enjoy the process and will be relieved by getting my thoughts out to the world, but there's an undeniable apprehension to do so as if I'm avoiding something painful. Can you relate?

"Time spent doing one thing is time spent not doing something else."

I had that kind of principle several years ago, and remain till now.
When I decided to droped out from college, I thought a while "One thing that I choose will make life story that absolutely different compared with if I choose another thing."
At the same time we have unlimited choices to choose for doing/thingking/anything...

That's how I decides all activity I did in day to day life...
I'm so sory about your friend, Milton Olin.

Hey Derek, my sympathies. I know how you feel, I've lost two good buddies at very early ages. You sit back and wonder, "WHY" ? Why do some die so young? And most of the time they are very good people, great for the community, great family oriented, and generous. If anyone has that answer please post it, I'd like to read it.

Guy

Each death I've experienced - at least the death of someone I loved deeply - has taught me an important lesson. It's different each time. I've come to realize that that's part of the function of loss. It doesn't make it any easier to bear, but perhaps it's the universe's way of compensating us on some level.

My heartfelt sympathies. I look forward to your renewed writing endeavors. You are teaching us things while you are still here, which is a very good thing.

I have always loved your writing and never expressed to you how much! Recently I have had the word "gratitude" going through my thoughts and I am grateful for your wise words over the years. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I wish you prayers, peace, and beautiful memories.
Gerri DiMaggio

I just read this today. I am so sorry for your loss. I had my mother taken from me two years ago...unexpectedly and suddenly as in the case of your friend. Shortly thereafter I lost my 30 year marriage (separation chosen by my wife). I am well acquainted with sudden loss/grief on a major scale. Although the situations are different (my mother), I'm sure the emotions, feelings etc. are very similar. Once again, my heartfelt condolences.

I was just think about you today as I have recently read your book "Anything You Want" and was thinking of emailing you as you had mentioned your readers should do. I am still putting my thoughts together in that regard, but what you have written here prompted me to communicate with you at this time. I will send you my thoughts shortly.

Thanks for CD Baby, your book and your writings. I really appreciate them.

Alan Riva

I agree, keep writing for Milt!

Having survived to my seventh decade I am now sure that every moment is precious . Sorry for your loss and sure that in this and all things you will learn and grow.

Your written word is beautiful. Thank you very much.

I was so sad to hear about Milt's passing. :( I had been working with him on some things at work and didn't realize he had passed away when I first saw your e-mail. Really sad. He was a very funny and positive guy and I'll really miss him.

soo sorry for your loss Derek.. it is hard to lose someone close. I am glad you have decided to start writing again. Theres definitely a few things I could be doing my self just lacking the motivation. Keep on going!

I'm gonna miss Milt Olin. I met Milt during the A&M Records days during the 80's. I could really make Milt Laugh. Years later we reconnected. Milt, Thanks for your honesty, your smarts and taking the time to believe in me you gave me hope . Gonna finish the project you said was a winner. Love ya Milt. Always RIP

This post was particularly moving for me because we lost a local musician last year in a similar accident. Also made me reflect on what I have been putting off, and helped me get back to web project I have been incubating for a while.

Blessings.

Well said, we are always making a choice - we can either do something important or do something unimportant, we can't do both.

It is Christmas eve and I have had two conversations today about the subject matter in this post. When we talk about time being limited it tend to move some of us off the dime. Thanks for the encouragement and the post. Merry Christmas

I know without any doubt your friend took with him to the great Palace awaiting us in our next step of existence all of the music you forwarded him. No doubt in my mind whatsoever. A thought, nothing more ... ... ... Perhaps GOD wanted him to be listening to exactly what you gave to him just before he left you and this mortal coil behind to be busy doing what GOD has planned for him now. As I just said, an idea. One I am very comfortable believing in and more so sharing with you. GOD Bless him and you, Derek! Merry CHRISTmas and happy new year!

Sorry to hear about your loss. Let Milt inspire you to write for a very very long time.
May 2014 bring you joy and good health.

I'm sorry for your loss. :(

One of my friend passed away on my birthday, 3 years ago because of Renal Failure. We met on online forum, he was one of the most friendly member I met there. Until one day before he passed away, he still posting actively, helping other members, and write some jokes.
Every now and then when I stuck or get too lazy, I remember how good he is at it. How helpful one man can be with so much knowledge. How he always able to make us laugh, even in the most awkward situation.
Everything we do and everything we learn is useful, even some silly jokes.
Cheer up, and remember the best of him. :)

The imminence of our mortality does have a big impact on our priorities for the day, eh? But there's still value in goofing off too. And some of that unimportant junk we do is dictated by circumstances. Like doing taxes or getting the car fixed--time that does not feel well spent, but can't be helped.

2 days after Milton died a friend of mines husband died in his sleep (age 48) with a baby and twins on the way. I have been pondering a lot about what is important in life. Thank you for sharing, yes write you must.

I am so at still why is he gone? How are some so evolved... Need to get there just have not yet with many things..... And him...

I knew Milt vicariously through his cycling friend Geoffrey, so when I heard of this terrible accident I looked him up and I found your very sensitive and thoughtful comments. Thank you for sharing them.You have articulated all that I might have about appreciating every moment and the preciousness of every relationship. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Hi Derek
Sorry for your loss of a very good friend.
I'm glad you're back!
Avril

Derek,

This post is over two years old now, yet I could feel the intensity of what you felt but more importantly what you wrote. Greatest gesture on our part as readers would be to act on your words and actually grab life and work on making our dreams come true.

Thanks again.

Regards,
Arvind

A minor lesson from this is:
Give a "thank you" and a "recognition" whenever you can.
I am trying to do so these days, as it's a good healthy lifestyle practise that I wish I did more often.

I thanked a man on his blog once and he said, "I'm glad somebody noticed."

Folks, Derek mentions a book, a song, a project... (For example)

Meanwhile, that stuff that seems so important on our "to do" list is truly so trivial, although it seems so important to our "supposed to" ego.

My definition of trivial? Stuff that won't get mentioned in your obituary. Or by people at your wake. Not like a song, book or project.

Hi, it's me again.

Back in college, having exciting meeting of life conversations, I would go home and excitedly write in my journal what someone had said. Too bad most of us don't do that.

It seems to me that if we can journal or blog what someone said, then after time blurs the memory, after they meet an untimely accident, we can put their words out there for others to work with.

Resistance came, as it always does, and took away my momentum. In your friends' memory, in my family's honor, I'm getting back to it.

This article is helping me 6 years later. Keep writing.

True true true.....time is ticking...what to do....

Creativity , love, nature, laughter and helping others.

Dear Derek,
Sorry for your loss; please put the ideas on paper. I have just finished writing my mother's biography because I feel the word should know about her and feel what a remarkable woman she was. Mother of eleven children ( I am the sixth child) who lived her life for us and managed so much. She learnt how to drive a car at the age of 65; studied English in evening school to be able to communicate with my children and learnt how to swim. She would do 50 laps when she was way over seventy, nobody could stop her. She was a great example to all of us and I put her story on paper, just need to publish it which I will do myself as well. She had a vision in life just do things one sentence at the time and in the end you will have a book and she was right as usual. Keep on going was her moto.
Put your friend's thoughts on paper it will help you dealing with your loss.

Sincerely
Margret

Thank you for inspiration.
There is something very true in your writing.
Thank you for sharing.